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How to deal with having no friends?

Bob

It's been the exact same throught my life so far - where I always feel and assume I'm appreciated until I find out otherwise through hearing them talk bad about me behind my back or excluding me from group chats etc. I love talking to people and making friends but it feels like people just don't want to know me, I remember my autism team saying it's temporary and I've just had a bit of a bad experience still seeing I'm quite young but it's all that I know - spending so much time getting to know people and trying to fit in when they never liked me in the first place but never had enough respect to tell me to my face. My biggest fear is being a loner but it's not like I really have anywhere else to go 

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  • I have also had problems making real conections most of my life - I couldn't figure out why it was so hard for me, the struggle and fear that grew about how people perceived me led to social anxiety disorder. I was undiagnosed with autism until last year. It is only last year and this year that I have met some really great people that I really got on with, and made genuine friends and allow me to be myself entirely around them. The school and even university environment is great at making us feel like we don't fit in and that the "rejection" we face there will be permanent, but when you're out of there and liivng your actual life you meet people that are so different and don't require soo much effort.

    You are not afraid and enjoy talking to people, I had a lot of self-development to do and healing before reaching that point. Never loose that, it is an admireable strength. You mustn't loose faith either, your tribe is out there. The universe will place them with you probably when you least expect it - focus on yourself, your goals and what you enjoy for the time being.

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  • I have also had problems making real conections most of my life - I couldn't figure out why it was so hard for me, the struggle and fear that grew about how people perceived me led to social anxiety disorder. I was undiagnosed with autism until last year. It is only last year and this year that I have met some really great people that I really got on with, and made genuine friends and allow me to be myself entirely around them. The school and even university environment is great at making us feel like we don't fit in and that the "rejection" we face there will be permanent, but when you're out of there and liivng your actual life you meet people that are so different and don't require soo much effort.

    You are not afraid and enjoy talking to people, I had a lot of self-development to do and healing before reaching that point. Never loose that, it is an admireable strength. You mustn't loose faith either, your tribe is out there. The universe will place them with you probably when you least expect it - focus on yourself, your goals and what you enjoy for the time being.

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