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How to deal with having no friends?

Bob

It's been the exact same throught my life so far - where I always feel and assume I'm appreciated until I find out otherwise through hearing them talk bad about me behind my back or excluding me from group chats etc. I love talking to people and making friends but it feels like people just don't want to know me, I remember my autism team saying it's temporary and I've just had a bit of a bad experience still seeing I'm quite young but it's all that I know - spending so much time getting to know people and trying to fit in when they never liked me in the first place but never had enough respect to tell me to my face. My biggest fear is being a loner but it's not like I really have anywhere else to go 

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  • I understand, it's been very similar for me and I'm in my sixties! It's not so much that people dislike me, more like they're just not really interested in either starting or maintaining a friendship with me.

    I was lucky to meet my partner when I was in my late teens, so he's always been my best friend which makes it a bit easier. Just having one friend can make you feel less lonely. 

    I suggest you try going to groups or clubs where others share your interest, then maybe you might find someone on your wavelength. I wish you luck, and hope that this community helps you.

  • in reply to Lotus

    I understand to and like Lotus I'm in my sixties, I have a few acquaintances, but no actual friends anymore, my last one has drifted off with a new partner.

    It's all very well joining things, but if you find you have nothing or very little in common then it's hard to make or sustain friendships. I find I always managed to inadvertently upset the queen bee of any group, just by walking into a room, I don't do any better with men either, so many see me as a threat, often because of something as stupid as me being taller than them and not automatically deferring to them. So now I have cats to cuddle and a dog to take me for walks and I'm learning to do without much in the way of human interaction. I rarely feel lonely now, but I used to a lot, when I was younger

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  • in reply to Lotus

    I understand to and like Lotus I'm in my sixties, I have a few acquaintances, but no actual friends anymore, my last one has drifted off with a new partner.

    It's all very well joining things, but if you find you have nothing or very little in common then it's hard to make or sustain friendships. I find I always managed to inadvertently upset the queen bee of any group, just by walking into a room, I don't do any better with men either, so many see me as a threat, often because of something as stupid as me being taller than them and not automatically deferring to them. So now I have cats to cuddle and a dog to take me for walks and I'm learning to do without much in the way of human interaction. I rarely feel lonely now, but I used to a lot, when I was younger

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