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Do people actually like doing hobbies etc., or is it all for show?

BeaE

I have tried various hobbies over the years, but it always just feels like I'm filling time, or forcing myself into doing things that society approves of. I've not actually liked doing any of the things.

The tiredness or anxiety caused by hobbies and 'fun' pursuits just doesn't seem worth it. Quiet crafty hobbies or reading generally just feel like filling time, and then I feel bad for not being out and about, or bad for not finishing a project I've bought things for and not finished (or even started...)

For as long as I can remember, I've devoted most of my energy to work or study. Maybe this is why hobbies are less appealing to me - 'living to work' not 'working to live' and all that.

I'm wondering if other people feel like this too, or if you actually have found things that are enjoyable and fulfilling? If I just keep trying with a hobby, will enjoyment for it arise at some point? Maybe I just don't know I'm enjoying things, like alexithymia? 

Any input would be great please, just trying to figure this out!

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  • A hobby, for me, is a favourite pursuit that provides entertainment.

    I enjoy and engage in:

    • Researching interesting subjects and themes online.
    • Archaeology.
    • Lifelong learning in understanding canine behaviour.
    • Going for walks with my dogs.
    • Understanding world religions.
    • History.
    • Reading.
    • Observing nature.
    • Meditation.

    I actively engage in these activities alone for most of the time. I don’t do them “for show”.

    I am not necessarily ecstatically happy all the time while I’m doing some of the things, but none of these things are ever a chore.

    I don’t think hobbies are a necessity for everyone and people should be free to decide for themselves how they spend free time, even if that means doing nothing or ‘just being’.

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  • A hobby, for me, is a favourite pursuit that provides entertainment.

    I enjoy and engage in:

    • Researching interesting subjects and themes online.
    • Archaeology.
    • Lifelong learning in understanding canine behaviour.
    • Going for walks with my dogs.
    • Understanding world religions.
    • History.
    • Reading.
    • Observing nature.
    • Meditation.

    I actively engage in these activities alone for most of the time. I don’t do them “for show”.

    I am not necessarily ecstatically happy all the time while I’m doing some of the things, but none of these things are ever a chore.

    I don’t think hobbies are a necessity for everyone and people should be free to decide for themselves how they spend free time, even if that means doing nothing or ‘just being’.

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