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Do people actually like doing hobbies etc., or is it all for show?

BeaE

I have tried various hobbies over the years, but it always just feels like I'm filling time, or forcing myself into doing things that society approves of. I've not actually liked doing any of the things.

The tiredness or anxiety caused by hobbies and 'fun' pursuits just doesn't seem worth it. Quiet crafty hobbies or reading generally just feel like filling time, and then I feel bad for not being out and about, or bad for not finishing a project I've bought things for and not finished (or even started...)

For as long as I can remember, I've devoted most of my energy to work or study. Maybe this is why hobbies are less appealing to me - 'living to work' not 'working to live' and all that.

I'm wondering if other people feel like this too, or if you actually have found things that are enjoyable and fulfilling? If I just keep trying with a hobby, will enjoyment for it arise at some point? Maybe I just don't know I'm enjoying things, like alexithymia? 

Any input would be great please, just trying to figure this out!

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  • Sporting challenges. Provide tangible achievements and processes to be refined with your attention to detail.

  • in reply to 1966

    They do? Being someone who's dog gives them a 'you really are crap at throwing, running and catching' and who dosen't do teams or groups, I'd have to disagree with you

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I hear you that everyone is different, meaning everyone has their own individual number regarding sporting activities eg race times, no matter how fast or slow. Everyone can seek to achieve a better time. That usually cones with knowing yourself, having a good plan, give it a go and keep reviewing and improving. Less quantitative team sports can still offer something similar to above, or switching gears, I'm sure other areas like musical talents, cooking etc still offer growth opportunities. We can use our typical strengths such as self awareness, planning, resilience, analysing with numbers etc to achieve more, which can be satisfying. Ps. I'm sure your dog loves you no matter what! You're typically happier from doing and helping others...

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I hear you that everyone is different, meaning everyone has their own individual number regarding sporting activities eg race times, no matter how fast or slow. Everyone can seek to achieve a better time. That usually cones with knowing yourself, having a good plan, give it a go and keep reviewing and improving. Less quantitative team sports can still offer something similar to above, or switching gears, I'm sure other areas like musical talents, cooking etc still offer growth opportunities. We can use our typical strengths such as self awareness, planning, resilience, analysing with numbers etc to achieve more, which can be satisfying. Ps. I'm sure your dog loves you no matter what! You're typically happier from doing and helping others...

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