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Do people actually like doing hobbies etc., or is it all for show?

BeaE

I have tried various hobbies over the years, but it always just feels like I'm filling time, or forcing myself into doing things that society approves of. I've not actually liked doing any of the things.

The tiredness or anxiety caused by hobbies and 'fun' pursuits just doesn't seem worth it. Quiet crafty hobbies or reading generally just feel like filling time, and then I feel bad for not being out and about, or bad for not finishing a project I've bought things for and not finished (or even started...)

For as long as I can remember, I've devoted most of my energy to work or study. Maybe this is why hobbies are less appealing to me - 'living to work' not 'working to live' and all that.

I'm wondering if other people feel like this too, or if you actually have found things that are enjoyable and fulfilling? If I just keep trying with a hobby, will enjoyment for it arise at some point? Maybe I just don't know I'm enjoying things, like alexithymia? 

Any input would be great please, just trying to figure this out!

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  • Personally I don't get any enjoyment from anything. I don't know if it's a dopamine issue, I also have ADHD-i so that's a possibility.

    I was diagnosed with depression decades ago as I just enjoy or look forward to anything. Whether it's Alexithymia or Anhedonia I just don't know, I'm desperate to try to fix it as I could do with a win right about now.

  • in reply to Hergé

    Do get a GP appointment as lack of dopamine can easily be dealt with, using medication.

  • in reply to Marianne72

    It probably is if they want to know. I fit the criteria for TRD so my local mental health people just don't want to know. SSRIs & SNRIs don't have any effect. After being bounced from the secondary team as I'm not deemed to be a danger to myself or others and I can mainly function, they just don't want to know. I had a very long conversation with my GP who was understandably at a loss as there is a limit to what they can prescribe. So I'm on vortioxetine (SMS) which has a different mechanism. I've asked for something dopamine specific but they are outside the GPs remit.(Apparently)

    Feel free to correct me if I'm incorrect but this is what I've been told?

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  • in reply to Marianne72

    It probably is if they want to know. I fit the criteria for TRD so my local mental health people just don't want to know. SSRIs & SNRIs don't have any effect. After being bounced from the secondary team as I'm not deemed to be a danger to myself or others and I can mainly function, they just don't want to know. I had a very long conversation with my GP who was understandably at a loss as there is a limit to what they can prescribe. So I'm on vortioxetine (SMS) which has a different mechanism. I've asked for something dopamine specific but they are outside the GPs remit.(Apparently)

    Feel free to correct me if I'm incorrect but this is what I've been told?

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