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Do people actually like doing hobbies etc., or is it all for show?

BeaE

I have tried various hobbies over the years, but it always just feels like I'm filling time, or forcing myself into doing things that society approves of. I've not actually liked doing any of the things.

The tiredness or anxiety caused by hobbies and 'fun' pursuits just doesn't seem worth it. Quiet crafty hobbies or reading generally just feel like filling time, and then I feel bad for not being out and about, or bad for not finishing a project I've bought things for and not finished (or even started...)

For as long as I can remember, I've devoted most of my energy to work or study. Maybe this is why hobbies are less appealing to me - 'living to work' not 'working to live' and all that.

I'm wondering if other people feel like this too, or if you actually have found things that are enjoyable and fulfilling? If I just keep trying with a hobby, will enjoyment for it arise at some point? Maybe I just don't know I'm enjoying things, like alexithymia? 

Any input would be great please, just trying to figure this out!

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  • I feel the same way, I could have written your post. I don’t do anything except go to the gym in the middle of the day when it’s quiet. That is just because it’s healthy to go, I don’t really like it. Apart from that I can’t afford to do anything else except watch things online or list at to music. I do not have any friends or a social circle, just a few people from my old work I keep in contact with via text msg occasionally. I find it very hard to initiate doing a new thing. Even if it’s going to a shop. So starting a new hobby is not fun. I feel like I’m just filling time, even when I had a job, I felt like I was on a conveyor belt, working hard, to repeat it the next day. It felt like I was filling time. 
    I also get very focused so don’t like starting something unless I know I can spend every second working on it until it is complete. I hope we find something fun to do… good luck. 

  • in reply to NAS50553
    NAS50553 said:
    don’t like starting something unless I know I can spend every second working on it until it is complete.

    I have to finish things too - it can be very annoying. Try getting some books from the library about generic hobbies - you might get some ideas from that. What often motivates me is seeing something I'd like for my home or garden, either in a book or on TV, then trying to copy it.

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  • in reply to NAS50553
    NAS50553 said:
    don’t like starting something unless I know I can spend every second working on it until it is complete.

    I have to finish things too - it can be very annoying. Try getting some books from the library about generic hobbies - you might get some ideas from that. What often motivates me is seeing something I'd like for my home or garden, either in a book or on TV, then trying to copy it.

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