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Isolation

solitary_soul

Hello, new member on this forum. I have ASD, OCD, BDD and waiting on an ADHD diagnosis.

Aside from a weekly appointment with therapy and a monthly phone call with a disability advisor I've found myself in a situation where I'm completely isolated, and feel lost and depressed.

Is there anyone else here in that situation, and if so, how do you cope?

I've gradually found myself withdrawing from society because of my morals, the way I view the world and social issues. I've done a fair amount of voluntary work in the past but ultimately I've found charity work is no different to any other type of work in terms of interacting with other people and the drama and social issues that comes with ASD.

We live in a society where we're expected to integrate with each other regardless of how that makes us feel, and it's set up so the only option is to serve and be dependent on the state. If not you're pretty much made to feel useless and worthless to society.

I do have hobbies which are severely limited to what I feel is right or wrong, and feel like I'm living the same day over and over with no real reason or purpose. But on the other hand I don't have the stress of friendships, relationships and acquaintances which have brought me to this point. If I died in my sleep tonight nobody would know for weeks, months, longer, and that scares me.

If you are in the same situation any advice, help or ideas or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

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  • Hi  and welcome. I find solitude is nourishing, but loneliness is painful. My own approach is to prioritise the peace I need to stay healthy and just be, and then to socialise as I wish to (or need to). There are times when I have to be more social than I have energy for, and I schedule rest after these when I can. At times in my life, I have felt really lonely and have had to ride these out until my circumstances have altered: new or renewed contacts led those feelings to ease. Online communities, hanging out with other autistic folks, journalling, hobbies, gratitude etc can help, as others have noted. There is a 3 good things thread on here and I have found joining in has helped me stay grateful - maybe have a read and see what you think RE: 3 Good Things - Round 4 Take good care and hope our community helps you. 

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  • Hi  and welcome. I find solitude is nourishing, but loneliness is painful. My own approach is to prioritise the peace I need to stay healthy and just be, and then to socialise as I wish to (or need to). There are times when I have to be more social than I have energy for, and I schedule rest after these when I can. At times in my life, I have felt really lonely and have had to ride these out until my circumstances have altered: new or renewed contacts led those feelings to ease. Online communities, hanging out with other autistic folks, journalling, hobbies, gratitude etc can help, as others have noted. There is a 3 good things thread on here and I have found joining in has helped me stay grateful - maybe have a read and see what you think RE: 3 Good Things - Round 4 Take good care and hope our community helps you. 

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