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Autism Parenthood

AloeVera

My partner is neurotypical and I have Autism. In recent years my partner has been talking about having a child. I like the idea of having a child but I worry about many things. Mainly being able to support them.

I work but I struggle with social anxiety (the occasional panic attack) and do not currently earn enough to support my partner and a child.

If we decided to become parents, is there much help out there if I become the sole earner for the household?

Thanks

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  • Good afternoon from America, AloeVera!

    Not to scare you away from becoming a parent (I’m an Autistic father of two daughters), but you also have to consider the fact that your children may also be Autistic. That may mean that parenting will take even more care and attention than a NT child would normally need (which is already a lot).

    An Autistic child may have developmental delays (such as walking, pottying, and speaking) and can have significant difficulties in a school environment.

    HOWEVER
    That being said, there are joys to being Autistic and having an Autistic child. They can see the world in a totally different light, and oftentimes it’s in a way only you as their parent can understand. It’s not all doom and gloom, but it can be difficult.

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  • Good afternoon from America, AloeVera!

    Not to scare you away from becoming a parent (I’m an Autistic father of two daughters), but you also have to consider the fact that your children may also be Autistic. That may mean that parenting will take even more care and attention than a NT child would normally need (which is already a lot).

    An Autistic child may have developmental delays (such as walking, pottying, and speaking) and can have significant difficulties in a school environment.

    HOWEVER
    That being said, there are joys to being Autistic and having an Autistic child. They can see the world in a totally different light, and oftentimes it’s in a way only you as their parent can understand. It’s not all doom and gloom, but it can be difficult.

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  • in reply to profdanger

    Hi profdanger!

    Thank you for your reply. I have been considering this too. We are both in our early 40's, which I believe will increase the chances of having an Autistic child as well. Surprisingly (to me), this doesn't seem to concern my neurotypical partner very much at all.

    I'm comfortable with my place on the spectrum, my partner loves me for who I am and the world (despite the current chaos) does appear to be becoming a more accepting/understanding place for neurodivergent individuals. I can only see this as a positive for a child.

    It is a big decision. The financial side of things worries me the most.