Spiky profile

I’ve been thinking about spiky profiles in autism.

You can be really strong in some areas but struggle in others. I notice this a lot in myself.

For example, I can get completely absorbed in drawing or being out in nature, but social situations or work stuff can feel overwhelming.

I’m just starting to understand how my brain works and why some things come easily while others feel much harder.

I’d love to hear from anyone else who experiences this.

How do you cope or manage the differences between your strengths and the areas that are more challenging?

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  • I avoid doing things that don't play to my strengths, I'm lucky that I'm in a position to do so now. I've spent years stubbing my toes on the things I seem unable to do, even if others find them simple, all I got was sore feet. I will give new things a go, but I dont' beat myself up if I can't do them, even when others tell me I should for some nebulous reason best known to themselves.

    I have some synaethesia too, I've never been formally diagnosed, but I do taste colours and textures, like an over cooked fried egg tases like a net curtain.

    Sometimes people ask me if I don't think I'm stuck in a rut, but I tell them, no, I'm comfortably ploughing my own furrow!

    When ever people want me to do something, often my first response is 'what for, whats in it for me?', I know this sounds incredibly selfish, but it's been part of the learning to say no process. That not to say I won't do things, even if I can't see the point or don't understand whats being asked of me.

  • That’s a great outlook.

    I like how you describe “ploughing your own furrow” , it sounds peaceful and self-accepting.

    I’m also learning not to beat myself up over things that don’t come naturally and to focus on what does.

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