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Alcoholism and daily stress.

Harry

Hi guys, more or less writing this post to try and potentially see if anyone else can relate and/or could give me some advice on how to go about stopping my habitual drinking.

For some background info, I’m 24 and feel like I have always had a somewhat addictive personality however in recent years my relationship with alcohol which started pretty young has become far too strong and has been affecting both work and family relationships.

I’ve been struggling with my mental health as well recently which has made for a terrible mix, calling in sick to work too much and causing family members to worry about my well being. The reason for this is the exorbitant amount I drink when I do. Its gotten to the point where I have put myself into so much debt aswell but I’m still very much struggling to not drink.
Drinking has more or less became a crutch I use especially when it comes to going out and socialising as it makes it so much easier for me but I also cant seem to figure out when to stop. On top of everything having to deal with the shame and guilt I feel for the added stress I’m putting on my family is then also causing more stress than i can deal with and sometimes it just pushes me back into it and it becomes a vicious cycle. 

I’m currently at my wits end about it all and I’m unsure how to move forward I basically just feel stuck so I was wondering if anyone else has dealt with anything like this and weather they have any advice for me.

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  • Well done for getting over the hardest part - asking for help.

    My advice to you would be to seek professional help. Starting with your GP/Doctor. You deserve support for what you are going through.

    It's also worth seeking out any groups/institutions that provide support for alcohol/drugs that operate near you. Try searching online, most organisations will have a website, and probably an online self-referral process which is worth completing.

    If you do take this approach please be patient, it can take a while since these institutions are stretched a little thin.

    Also please stop being so hard on yourself it's never helpful. You should be a bit kinder and more compassionate towards yourself. You've already made such a huge step in asking for help/advice.

    Also your family will want to support you. Let them. Be honest with them. I really pushed my family and friends away with my drinking, it was by far the worst mistake I've ever made in my life. Please don't make the same mistake as me.

    A bit more about me:

    I'm 30. I drank heavily every day for the last 10 years. I'm currently feeling a lot more positive about my recovery. I Tried to fix things on my own, but didn't have much success in the past.

    The things that have helped me so far:

    1. My GP - prescribing meds for underlying mental health issues has been a game changer, I can finally see all of my problems a lot clearer and I finally feel like I can start tackling things.

    2. An NHS run Alcohol/Drug service near me - Provides a lot of good resources for dealing with alcohol and excellent face-to-face support from a keyworker.

    3. Psychodynamic therapy - Only just started but should be helpful to process some of the underlying emotional issues - that I was previously treating with alcohol.

    I hope this is helpful and not too much info. We're all in your corner rooting for you, but it's your fight. Don't ever be afraid for asking for help/support - everyone needs it from time to time, and everyone deserves it.

    Best,

    Andrew

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  • Well done for getting over the hardest part - asking for help.

    My advice to you would be to seek professional help. Starting with your GP/Doctor. You deserve support for what you are going through.

    It's also worth seeking out any groups/institutions that provide support for alcohol/drugs that operate near you. Try searching online, most organisations will have a website, and probably an online self-referral process which is worth completing.

    If you do take this approach please be patient, it can take a while since these institutions are stretched a little thin.

    Also please stop being so hard on yourself it's never helpful. You should be a bit kinder and more compassionate towards yourself. You've already made such a huge step in asking for help/advice.

    Also your family will want to support you. Let them. Be honest with them. I really pushed my family and friends away with my drinking, it was by far the worst mistake I've ever made in my life. Please don't make the same mistake as me.

    A bit more about me:

    I'm 30. I drank heavily every day for the last 10 years. I'm currently feeling a lot more positive about my recovery. I Tried to fix things on my own, but didn't have much success in the past.

    The things that have helped me so far:

    1. My GP - prescribing meds for underlying mental health issues has been a game changer, I can finally see all of my problems a lot clearer and I finally feel like I can start tackling things.

    2. An NHS run Alcohol/Drug service near me - Provides a lot of good resources for dealing with alcohol and excellent face-to-face support from a keyworker.

    3. Psychodynamic therapy - Only just started but should be helpful to process some of the underlying emotional issues - that I was previously treating with alcohol.

    I hope this is helpful and not too much info. We're all in your corner rooting for you, but it's your fight. Don't ever be afraid for asking for help/support - everyone needs it from time to time, and everyone deserves it.

    Best,

    Andrew

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