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Alcoholism and daily stress.

Harry

Hi guys, more or less writing this post to try and potentially see if anyone else can relate and/or could give me some advice on how to go about stopping my habitual drinking.

For some background info, I’m 24 and feel like I have always had a somewhat addictive personality however in recent years my relationship with alcohol which started pretty young has become far too strong and has been affecting both work and family relationships.

I’ve been struggling with my mental health as well recently which has made for a terrible mix, calling in sick to work too much and causing family members to worry about my well being. The reason for this is the exorbitant amount I drink when I do. Its gotten to the point where I have put myself into so much debt aswell but I’m still very much struggling to not drink.
Drinking has more or less became a crutch I use especially when it comes to going out and socialising as it makes it so much easier for me but I also cant seem to figure out when to stop. On top of everything having to deal with the shame and guilt I feel for the added stress I’m putting on my family is then also causing more stress than i can deal with and sometimes it just pushes me back into it and it becomes a vicious cycle. 

I’m currently at my wits end about it all and I’m unsure how to move forward I basically just feel stuck so I was wondering if anyone else has dealt with anything like this and weather they have any advice for me.

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  • You have my sympathy and my empathy  

    I figure to "do the right thing" the first thing for me to write is putting on the agenda seeking professional help and support. 

    Then,

    From personal experience coffee in the morning, alcohol at night.... all gets a bit out of balance 

    The crutch becomes a problem as without it there is not enough support.

    So to maybe offer some support - you're doing the right thing first of all by acknowledging the problem.

    Some would say this is the hardest part.  Myself I would suggest that it's a good start.

    If you flip things, as you already have in respect of drinking in social situations, rather than seeing the alcohol as the problem see it as a symptom of other problems.

    See these problems, if you can, as opportunities for things to address, seek support in tackling them.

    Develop a sense of what a good life is for you and try not to get too pulled too deep into recognising the sh1tty bits - cos they can drag you deeper.

    This is exercising "will power" (please I hope that doesn't seem patronising - I know what I feel in similar circumsatnces to those you describe)  Using this in my experience (for what that may be worth!) allows one a little bit more decision about how much of a crutch one needs as opposed to wants.  Leaning on it too much makes one weaker.  Leaning on it a bit less gradually makes one stronger.  The goal I personally work on is that it's eventually up to me how much I need the crutch, not the crutch telling me I need it.

    Easy to write, harder to do - worth the effort.

    If that makes sense?

    Best wishes.

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  • You have my sympathy and my empathy  

    I figure to "do the right thing" the first thing for me to write is putting on the agenda seeking professional help and support. 

    Then,

    From personal experience coffee in the morning, alcohol at night.... all gets a bit out of balance 

    The crutch becomes a problem as without it there is not enough support.

    So to maybe offer some support - you're doing the right thing first of all by acknowledging the problem.

    Some would say this is the hardest part.  Myself I would suggest that it's a good start.

    If you flip things, as you already have in respect of drinking in social situations, rather than seeing the alcohol as the problem see it as a symptom of other problems.

    See these problems, if you can, as opportunities for things to address, seek support in tackling them.

    Develop a sense of what a good life is for you and try not to get too pulled too deep into recognising the sh1tty bits - cos they can drag you deeper.

    This is exercising "will power" (please I hope that doesn't seem patronising - I know what I feel in similar circumsatnces to those you describe)  Using this in my experience (for what that may be worth!) allows one a little bit more decision about how much of a crutch one needs as opposed to wants.  Leaning on it too much makes one weaker.  Leaning on it a bit less gradually makes one stronger.  The goal I personally work on is that it's eventually up to me how much I need the crutch, not the crutch telling me I need it.

    Easy to write, harder to do - worth the effort.

    If that makes sense?

    Best wishes.

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