Stressed out

Woke up to my ex calling me, has been on and off for a few months. 

Ive been there for him everytime he calls but when I call he don't want to know. 

All he wants is positively and even though we stayed in contacted we would talk about problem going on in our life but he says im too negative recently. Recently I've lost my cat after she died. I'm scared of going back to uni and finding it hard to cope. He said I blame you for handling wrong you can choose to be positive yet your too sad. 

His way of trying to cheer me up was morbid jokes about my cat. Seriously?!! 

He tells me only he can tell me to shush not me to him. Only he can make fun of me not me to him. So one sided and yet this is the guy I seem to only confide in even after splitting up. 

I'm so lost. What should I do? Can anyone relate?

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  • He tells me only he can tell me to shush not me to him. Only he can make fun of me not me to him.

    I would ask him to explain why this is the case. If the relationship cannot be fair then it is by definition unfair.

    He does sound controlling from your explanation but we don't have the full picture here so can only reply based on what you say.

    Personally I would cut ties and stop seeing him to get that toxic element out of my life in spite of the connection and closeness it brings. Find someone (when you are ready) who is better for you.

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  • He tells me only he can tell me to shush not me to him. Only he can make fun of me not me to him.

    I would ask him to explain why this is the case. If the relationship cannot be fair then it is by definition unfair.

    He does sound controlling from your explanation but we don't have the full picture here so can only reply based on what you say.

    Personally I would cut ties and stop seeing him to get that toxic element out of my life in spite of the connection and closeness it brings. Find someone (when you are ready) who is better for you.

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