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Depression by Autism

GeekyTim

Over the past few months, I’ve been feeling more and more down. Before I was diagnosed with Autism, I had a really good job. But as I’ve mentioned before, my old manager made things difficult for me because he didn’t think I should be working in that kind of role. The company decided to pay me off instead of fixing the problem. For a few years, I lost confidence in myself and stopped working. Now I do some work again, but I earn much less—less than a quarter of what I used to make. I have about 10 years until I can retire officially, but my current income isn’t enough for day-to-day expenses. Thankfully, I own my house outright and have no loans, so I don’t have those worries. However, I don’t have extra money to buy the tools I need to do my work better. On top of that, I have a PIP assessment coming up for my disability benefits, and that makes me very anxious.

All of this makes me feel really sad. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to talk to my wife about it because she worries about whether we’ll be able to take cruises in retirement like her parents do.

Life feels like it's moving through sludge.

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  • Can tools not be funded through work? If it is autism related, I believe they can claim at least some of it back from the government. If its a more general thing everyone would benefit from, sometimes workplaces are just unaware of what is needed/beneficial. Although I have also worked somewhere the bosses were both unaware and resistant to spending money on the things that would make the work easier. Definitely look at if there's ways it can be funded through the business before taking on the expense yourself though.

    I don't know what the relationship or what your wife is like, but I can often get in my own way where my mind just replays worst case scenarios constantly. Is it really about protecting her, or are you anxious about the outcome? How do you think she would react? Do you think she would rather know so that she can support? 

  • in reply to D

    I would need an assessment. I am trying to do my job without 'aids' as in my last one I was told that despite government grants, everything was too expensive - even the things that had already been paid for before I had the diagnosis.

  • in reply to GeekyTim

    That seems extremely backwards. Although based on my own experience of employer support after mental health issues and autism disclosure, and things posted on this community almost daily, I can absolutely believe it.

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