Danger and risk awareness

OMG, got a real Deja-vu feeling there. My 30yo (adhd) was like that, and yes I totally understand how stressed you must feel and sympathise.

Please note, my son did reach adulthood despite the odd injury (& he is why I did 2 first aid courses although I patched up his friends as often as I did him). Kids are pretty good at learning from near misses. Please don’t think I am being flippant (I have been told I can be and I don’t mean to) I was a nervous wreak at times. I found meditation helped me deal with the worry.

I also learnt to judge when to step in - let the risk of minor injury go, to make the interventions stick when the risk was higher (walking a 3 foot wall = watch & be ready, 15 foot = yep, definitely step in).

This is NOT advice as it would depend on the child and how much you can stand, but I also took him to places that were organised but let the adrenaline flow, so he would have someone well trained to give instruction (they learn so much better when it doesn’t come from mum/dad). Activities like diggerland, rock climbing, abseiling, zip-line, paragliding, high rope assault course, riding pillion on his grandads motorbike etc. ok, that last one was when he was a bit older.

We couldn’t manage this every week of course, but the odd taster session was affordable and effective.

I can’t really offer any further advice as Bunny and EP seem to have covered it (the social books are a brilliant idea), but please message me if you ever want to rant/chat/count grey hairs with me! I’m serious on that last one, I am more white haired than mum.

OMG, got a real Deja-vu feeling there. My 30yo (adhd) was like that, and yes I totally understand how stressed you must feel and sympathise.

Please note, my son did reach adulthood despite the odd injury (& he is why I did 2 first aid courses although I patched up his friends as often as I did him). Kids are pretty good at learning from near misses. Please don’t think I am being flippant (I have been told I can be and I don’t mean to) I was a nervous wreak at times. I found meditation helped me deal with the worry.

I also learnt to judge when to step in - let the risk of minor injury go, to make the interventions stick when the risk was higher (walking a 3 foot wall = watch & be ready, 15 foot = yep, definitely step in).

This is NOT advice as it would depend on the child and how much you can stand, but I also took him to places that were organised but let the adrenaline flow, so he would have someone well trained to give instruction (they learn so much better when it doesn’t come from mum/dad). Activities like diggerland, rock climbing, abseiling, zip-line, paragliding, high rope assault course, riding pillion on his grandads motorbike etc. ok, that last one was when he was a bit older.

We couldn’t manage this every week of course, but the odd taster session was affordable and effective.

I can’t really offer any further advice as Bunny and EP seem to have covered it (the social books are a brilliant idea), but please message me if you ever want to rant/chat/count grey hairs with me! I’m serious on that last one, I am more white haired than mum.