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Peter

Now that I've been diagnosed, I felt like it would explain why I've had so much difficulty meeting people and holding down a relationship and that I could now work on it. But I'm still not meeting people, if anything it's got worse. I don't think I'm the most unattractive, I think my dating profiles are decent but whenever I try engaging with them again, I end up in a doom loop and getting a complex about potential flaws e.g. "being myself" but maybe other people can see the autism in me somehow. It's really getting me down as I've never had a long-term relationship, I'm nearly 30 and it's making me thing very odd bizarre and intrusive thoughts about myself. I just want to meet someone but my friends can only offer "it'll happen one day". Any solutions? Or shared experiences?

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  •  Hello Peter,

    Congratulations on getting your recent diagnosis and thank you for sharing your experiences about dating and relationships.

    I don’t know how useful and relevant it will be for your situation, but if you are feeling curious, you might like to read this interesting blog post where autistic author and social media personality Ramona Jones.

    Valentines Day with Ramona Jones - she reflects on her recent autism diagnosis, the ‘messy world of relationships’ and her 15-year relationship with her partner, from their meet cute, to their wedding.

    I just thought I would share this post, as it might feel humanising and liberating to learn that many others too can feel overwhelmed, navigating the dating field – strange social and sensory minefield with so many unwritten rules and restrictions imposed upon by society. Ramona also aims to broaden many people’s ‘quite narrow views of what dating should look like’ and make it feel less hard and more inclusive for everyone, including neuro-divergent people like us.

    I really hope you will learn to love yourself fully, and meet someone special who also fully accepts, understands, and appreciates your truest self.

    All the best,

    Good_Vibes365 

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  •  Hello Peter,

    Congratulations on getting your recent diagnosis and thank you for sharing your experiences about dating and relationships.

    I don’t know how useful and relevant it will be for your situation, but if you are feeling curious, you might like to read this interesting blog post where autistic author and social media personality Ramona Jones.

    Valentines Day with Ramona Jones - she reflects on her recent autism diagnosis, the ‘messy world of relationships’ and her 15-year relationship with her partner, from their meet cute, to their wedding.

    I just thought I would share this post, as it might feel humanising and liberating to learn that many others too can feel overwhelmed, navigating the dating field – strange social and sensory minefield with so many unwritten rules and restrictions imposed upon by society. Ramona also aims to broaden many people’s ‘quite narrow views of what dating should look like’ and make it feel less hard and more inclusive for everyone, including neuro-divergent people like us.

    I really hope you will learn to love yourself fully, and meet someone special who also fully accepts, understands, and appreciates your truest self.

    All the best,

    Good_Vibes365 

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