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Anxiety about visiting a barber

Oran G. Utan

Last time I had a proper haircut was the day of my dad's wedding, some 14 years ago. Since then, whenever I wanted it shortened, I would just lop it off myself to about mid length. Part of the reason is that I'm uncomfortable with letting my guard down where sharp objects like scissors and clippers are involved. The other major part is that, growing up Scottish, pretty much the only haircut of my childhood was a Number 1 or 2. Was always jealous of men in other cultures that seemed free to do a lot with their hair, because all the men I saw growing up cut their hair like they were joining the military.

All this to say that if I were to visit a barber, I have no idea what I even do or say. I don't even know what I'd want to have done, cos I don't really have a positive self image enough to say "Yeah I think I'd look good with yadda yadda". I think I look like your stereotypical overweight nerd with glasses and a shaggy mop of hair. I think it'd be nice to have a look that makes me feel good about myself, but I'm not sure I even know what that would be.

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  • Maybe try a unisex hairdresser, most of them are these days. Make sure you get time to talk about what you want, don't let them sit you down at a basin straight away, without talking to you and checking out what you want, dry hair behaves differently to wet hair. You need a style based around your face shape and what your hair will do, it's no good wanting a straight style if you have curly hair and don't want to spend hours fiddling with it. I think there are some sites that allow you to upload a photo and drop a hairstyle onto your head so as you can see what it's like. When you've found some styles that suit, take pictures of them to the hairdresser so as they can see what sort of thing you want and discuss it with you.

    Also when chooosing a hairdresser, take a good look at the staff's hair, if they all have the same sort of hair, usually a long style and a short one don't bother, go somewhere else or you will have either the short or the long style.

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  • Maybe try a unisex hairdresser, most of them are these days. Make sure you get time to talk about what you want, don't let them sit you down at a basin straight away, without talking to you and checking out what you want, dry hair behaves differently to wet hair. You need a style based around your face shape and what your hair will do, it's no good wanting a straight style if you have curly hair and don't want to spend hours fiddling with it. I think there are some sites that allow you to upload a photo and drop a hairstyle onto your head so as you can see what it's like. When you've found some styles that suit, take pictures of them to the hairdresser so as they can see what sort of thing you want and discuss it with you.

    Also when chooosing a hairdresser, take a good look at the staff's hair, if they all have the same sort of hair, usually a long style and a short one don't bother, go somewhere else or you will have either the short or the long style.

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