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Soiling issues

ShaunaB

Hi all, my son is 4 years old and over the last 3 week he has completely stopped going to the toilet for a poo. He has been soiling at school and at home and when he does it there is no reaction from him, he won't speak about it (he does have limited speech and understanding off speech too) and is not bothered by it at all. He is currently in a main stream school as I am fighting for a diagnosis for him and  down to this soiling everytime he does it in school I am called to bring him home as they are not allowed to clean him up. He has also been bullied by other children. Although he doesn't understand this bullying it's really getting to me! Has anyone been through anything similar to this with their child and do you have any advice on what I can do with him to try and get him back in to going to the toilet? (P.S he will go for wee's no problems at all) thanks guys! 

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  • Bullying is the key issue here. Many people on the spectrum (I appreciate you are still looking for a diagnosis), suffer from bullying.

    Because people on the spectrum behave differently, but most so because they are sensitive to their environment (noise and sudden movements) and may over-react, and because they seem socially naive or gullible, they get bullied by their peers.

    This isn't like conventional bullying with one or several aggressive individuals stealing pocket money from weaker kids. This is where the whole class turns on one kid, and gets off on seeing that kid suffer. It seems to be a human collective response to reject the odd one out, something from our early evolutionary ancestry, where a weak individual is a burden to the pack.

    At 4 soiling isn't that uncommon, and bedwetting could just as easily be a factor. Fear and anxiety might be the cause. Lots of children have these problems, not necessarily with a disability as a factor.

    But the bullying is something you need to watch for. It is a common experience for young people with autism/aspergers, and because such children don't feel able to talk about it, it often goes unnoticed.

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  • Bullying is the key issue here. Many people on the spectrum (I appreciate you are still looking for a diagnosis), suffer from bullying.

    Because people on the spectrum behave differently, but most so because they are sensitive to their environment (noise and sudden movements) and may over-react, and because they seem socially naive or gullible, they get bullied by their peers.

    This isn't like conventional bullying with one or several aggressive individuals stealing pocket money from weaker kids. This is where the whole class turns on one kid, and gets off on seeing that kid suffer. It seems to be a human collective response to reject the odd one out, something from our early evolutionary ancestry, where a weak individual is a burden to the pack.

    At 4 soiling isn't that uncommon, and bedwetting could just as easily be a factor. Fear and anxiety might be the cause. Lots of children have these problems, not necessarily with a disability as a factor.

    But the bullying is something you need to watch for. It is a common experience for young people with autism/aspergers, and because such children don't feel able to talk about it, it often goes unnoticed.

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