Hi
I have a daughter who will be 4 in a few months. She was diagnosed before Xmas with asd, after a very long process of referrals. SHes always been a handful, obsessions tantrums and at 2 and a half could barely say anything.
she is in preschool now and her speech has come on a lot. She's saying 3 words together and is finally asking for things instead of just granting or crying.
i guess the reason I'm posting this is because I'm feeling confused about a meeting I've just had at the school. A meeting(first one) was set up with her pediatition, speech theripst and her teacher ( we've just found out this lady is actually a teaching assistant) in charge of the class I don't know how usual that is? Anyway I get the distinct impression the teacher is not in agreement of the diagnoses. She says that's my daughter s behaviour is never a problem at school and content pretty happy. I've been having a few issues since she started school with her not listening to me been naughty when I drop her off and when I collect her she wacks me, runs off towards the road and and is very clingy demanding and hyper when I get her home. They had to move the welly bin outside because he was been obsessing over them when it was home time. (she has had obsession about her and everyone else's wellies for 18months. She would freak out everytime she saw some. I would get the comment at school 'she only reacts like that when family turn help
while at the meeting we discribed how we can't take her into shops as she acts very I appropriately and won't follow instruction or listen putting things in her pockets and screaming refusing to walk if we tell her she can't
the teachers response was tontell me her granddaughter is a nightmere in tesco too. I felt like saying dont tell that's normal and you understand whats its like to try and reason with a child who simply doesn't understand!.
She claims to be experienced with autism and working with children but she had no help or feedback other than we should expect too much as she's still very young and to not overload her with more than one social story at a time.
we were given a book from the library by the hosp which was a book of social stories which shows the wrong and the right way to act or do things. She said that we should just tell her the positives and not point out the wrong way as in the book. So I'm confused now as to what at methods to use.
we asked whether my daughters learning she said she was struggling in groups and she wasn't sure how much she was taking in as she seemed introverted at times but that its all very well the speech theripst suggesting one one time but she doesn't have the time or space for it with so many other kids.
my husband and I turned up prepared with a book with pages of creative solutions to social situations emotion cards and photos which we created to try and teach her and better understand her and the way to help her deal with these emotions that are just coming out in anger currently. My husband said she was smirking at me as he feels we totally showed her up as she was unprepared and had scrambled something together (a hometime social story) last minute that wasn't even finished.
Any advice would be appreciated, I have a feeling the road ahead isn't going to be smooth
x
