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4 year old son diagnosed as autistic yesterday

peckie

First post on this site..or any. our four year old son was diagnosed as autistic  yesterday. the hand grenade was thrown, then we were given a leaflet and walked out the door. he is the youngest boy of 4  boys in the family.   They all obviously worry too so most time spent under playing how sad I feel whilst I assure everyone its fine. its not though.

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  • Hi - me again.  Perhaps it's trying to be upbeat that's making things worse?  You need to let it out.  Is there anyone you can talk to?  Also you need to be open with your family, obviously without upsetting them.  Whilst you may feel guilty, there's nothing you cd have done.  I think most of us have felt responsible at some point, but we're not - nothing we cd have done.  Parents can tear themselves apart thinking of all the "what ifs".  Children do pick up on things, so however much you spin, they may be more aware of how you sometimes feel than you realise.  So, perhaps it's time for a bit of plain speaking to clear things up + move fwd?  I know a lot of what I'm saying sounds practical + emotions aren't practical but the time will come when you'll need to do this because of family dynamics + your own needs.

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  • Hi - me again.  Perhaps it's trying to be upbeat that's making things worse?  You need to let it out.  Is there anyone you can talk to?  Also you need to be open with your family, obviously without upsetting them.  Whilst you may feel guilty, there's nothing you cd have done.  I think most of us have felt responsible at some point, but we're not - nothing we cd have done.  Parents can tear themselves apart thinking of all the "what ifs".  Children do pick up on things, so however much you spin, they may be more aware of how you sometimes feel than you realise.  So, perhaps it's time for a bit of plain speaking to clear things up + move fwd?  I know a lot of what I'm saying sounds practical + emotions aren't practical but the time will come when you'll need to do this because of family dynamics + your own needs.

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