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cat34

Hi there

I am a single Mum and wondered if anyone could give me a bit of help and advice.

My son is 6yrs old and his school are pushing for a diagnosis of ASD I am not sure I agree with this and I am not sure I want to put him through the stress all these observations and 'meetings' could cause him. I agree that the behaviour he is desplaying at school is not acceptable and is not so called "normal". They have already involved the Ed Psych but they said once they have recieved the report they will discuss taking it further. When I read through information on ASD I judt do not feel it describes my son at all, yet when I read about ADHD I feel that describes him fully (apart from the hurting animals as he would not do this at all) but when I mentioned it to the school they just cut me down and said no way.

He is not great in the classroom and argues against the teachers and can hit out at those that try to control him but he only displays these behaviours at school or on the very off occasion when he feels threatened by others. He is incredibly intelligant, he was reading at the age of 3 and is very into science and maths and space and the earth. At home yes he can be argumentative but so can every other 6yr old I know. He likes things to be done his way but then he also loves his hugs with anyone and he has friends and can talk to people with no issues at all. He fidgets a lot and finds it very hard to concentrate on anything for long periods of time (apart from reading books of his choice).

I am feeling very confused on what to do. Will it be better to get the diagnosis? What will happen if we do get a diagnosis of ASD, I know it is not the end of the world but what does it actually mean? What will we get from a diagnosis? Will it hinder him in any way in later life?

I have no idea what to do!! Please give me some wisdom on what I should do!

Thanks for your help

Cat

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  • Hiya,

    Yeah he does do pretend play and at home when he plays on his own he plays with great imagination. His friends are quite similar to him in that they like doctor who, avangers and all those sort of things so that is the sort of thing they play but in the school playground before school he plays with 2 girls and they all have input into what they are playing not just him directing the play.

    He does his best to help one of his friends who really struggles with reading, helping him to sound out the words and doesn't get cross with him if he gets it wrong. When we walk to school there is an old guy we see most morings and after the first few weeks he asked me if he could make the man happy by saying good morning to him. So both these show he does think about and understand how others are feeling.

    His sleep is a weird one, sometimes he will go to sleep straight away sometimes he wont, if he doesn't go to sleep straight away he will stay up and read and it can take me a good 2 or 3hrs to get him to stop and go to sleep! Once asleep he will stay asleep but does tend to get up around 6am no matter what time he goes to sleep.

    He doesn't get homework but if he doesn't do is work in class it sometimes gets sent home and at home he will sit and do his work in just 10-15mins. He is not at all fussy with food or textures or clothes or have any sensitivities. He has no issues with home routine being changed in any way even if it is last min changes that he has no control over do not bother him in the slightest. He will talk to new people that come into the house, yes he gets on with adults better than he does children but until he started school I knew almost no-one with children so he has a lot more interaction with adults over the first 5yrs of his life.

    As far as I can tell the school only seem to think that it is ASD rather than ADHD because they will get more funding if it is ASD. They say he doesn't have the ticks that are usually seen in ADHD yet he fiddles constantly and can not sit on the floor and he can't sit still like the other kids.

    I am just all rather confused about it all and what to do.

    Thanks

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  • Hiya,

    Yeah he does do pretend play and at home when he plays on his own he plays with great imagination. His friends are quite similar to him in that they like doctor who, avangers and all those sort of things so that is the sort of thing they play but in the school playground before school he plays with 2 girls and they all have input into what they are playing not just him directing the play.

    He does his best to help one of his friends who really struggles with reading, helping him to sound out the words and doesn't get cross with him if he gets it wrong. When we walk to school there is an old guy we see most morings and after the first few weeks he asked me if he could make the man happy by saying good morning to him. So both these show he does think about and understand how others are feeling.

    His sleep is a weird one, sometimes he will go to sleep straight away sometimes he wont, if he doesn't go to sleep straight away he will stay up and read and it can take me a good 2 or 3hrs to get him to stop and go to sleep! Once asleep he will stay asleep but does tend to get up around 6am no matter what time he goes to sleep.

    He doesn't get homework but if he doesn't do is work in class it sometimes gets sent home and at home he will sit and do his work in just 10-15mins. He is not at all fussy with food or textures or clothes or have any sensitivities. He has no issues with home routine being changed in any way even if it is last min changes that he has no control over do not bother him in the slightest. He will talk to new people that come into the house, yes he gets on with adults better than he does children but until he started school I knew almost no-one with children so he has a lot more interaction with adults over the first 5yrs of his life.

    As far as I can tell the school only seem to think that it is ASD rather than ADHD because they will get more funding if it is ASD. They say he doesn't have the ticks that are usually seen in ADHD yet he fiddles constantly and can not sit on the floor and he can't sit still like the other kids.

    I am just all rather confused about it all and what to do.

    Thanks

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