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My Son is so angry sometimes

matty19

My son is 21 with ADHD and Aspergers. He wants to be a normal young man but struggles sometimes with friends etc.. He has a very violent temper, ( he has had from when he was a child-but then we could hold him to protect him against hurting himself and property). Now he's over 6ft and its like a switch being flipped, one minute he's fine, the next he's physically attacking my husband and his younger brother-he's never touched me I might add. He's so sad afterwards and its like he can't help it, but i'm not sure. Its worse when he's had a drink, and he knows this but he doesn't seem to know when to stop anything, drinking, talking, argueing,eating...so its hard work. Is there counselling out there that could help? I'm not sure if "normal" anger management classes would take into account his Aspergers.

He wants to get help, he needs help before he seriousily hurts someone.

any suggestions

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  • Ah well, ask NAS.....

    There is a bit of a gulf between NAS (as the by product of parents groups) and NAS as a proponent of the adult autism strategy. None of us can work out for certain whether NAS understands the connection.

    Between parented child and adult, there are a number of years, jokingly referred to as "transition" (which is the last thing it could be called).

    Other than that local authorities are now beginning to grasp that transition is necessary, there really is a massive void between 16 and 25.

    Cue for a moderator to come by and explain it to us.

    There is information on the NAS webpages about autism and the "criminal justice system" - there are cards you can get through NAS which he can carry around to help explain to the plods - but don't raise you hopes too high, because when it comes to autism the plods are astonishingly slow on the uptake even by normal police standards.

    But after the "swimming pool scandal" which landed the Met in a whole lot of trouble, police forces round the country MUST now receive training.

    Basically the Metropolitan Police intervened when an autistic boy became stressed on the edge of a swimming pool, and despite his carer's attempts to explain the boy was double handcuffed and sat on. For that they were severely reprimanded. But whether it has sunk in everywhere remains to be seen.

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  • Ah well, ask NAS.....

    There is a bit of a gulf between NAS (as the by product of parents groups) and NAS as a proponent of the adult autism strategy. None of us can work out for certain whether NAS understands the connection.

    Between parented child and adult, there are a number of years, jokingly referred to as "transition" (which is the last thing it could be called).

    Other than that local authorities are now beginning to grasp that transition is necessary, there really is a massive void between 16 and 25.

    Cue for a moderator to come by and explain it to us.

    There is information on the NAS webpages about autism and the "criminal justice system" - there are cards you can get through NAS which he can carry around to help explain to the plods - but don't raise you hopes too high, because when it comes to autism the plods are astonishingly slow on the uptake even by normal police standards.

    But after the "swimming pool scandal" which landed the Met in a whole lot of trouble, police forces round the country MUST now receive training.

    Basically the Metropolitan Police intervened when an autistic boy became stressed on the edge of a swimming pool, and despite his carer's attempts to explain the boy was double handcuffed and sat on. For that they were severely reprimanded. But whether it has sunk in everywhere remains to be seen.

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