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My Son is so angry sometimes

matty19

My son is 21 with ADHD and Aspergers. He wants to be a normal young man but struggles sometimes with friends etc.. He has a very violent temper, ( he has had from when he was a child-but then we could hold him to protect him against hurting himself and property). Now he's over 6ft and its like a switch being flipped, one minute he's fine, the next he's physically attacking my husband and his younger brother-he's never touched me I might add. He's so sad afterwards and its like he can't help it, but i'm not sure. Its worse when he's had a drink, and he knows this but he doesn't seem to know when to stop anything, drinking, talking, argueing,eating...so its hard work. Is there counselling out there that could help? I'm not sure if "normal" anger management classes would take into account his Aspergers.

He wants to get help, he needs help before he seriousily hurts someone.

any suggestions

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  • Absolutely correct, its once they have left school that they need the most help and guidence. At school they have the  structure that my Son felt comfortable with. He knew where he was meant to be, at what time and what was expected of him. Once he left, he was suddenly trying to be grow up and struggling to cope with the fact that there weren't the same rules. To others the freedom was great, but my son wasn't good at making decisions and really found it hard. Add girls and alcohol when he was 18 and things go from difficult to very difficult. I have tried to explain things but he just wants to be like his friends, some of whom take advantage of his good nature.

    He's been in trouble with the police twice, neither were his fault, he was just attacked outside of a club because someone knew he had issues!!!!

    There needs to be something in place so they don't fall off the conveyor belt at 16 years old.

     

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  • Absolutely correct, its once they have left school that they need the most help and guidence. At school they have the  structure that my Son felt comfortable with. He knew where he was meant to be, at what time and what was expected of him. Once he left, he was suddenly trying to be grow up and struggling to cope with the fact that there weren't the same rules. To others the freedom was great, but my son wasn't good at making decisions and really found it hard. Add girls and alcohol when he was 18 and things go from difficult to very difficult. I have tried to explain things but he just wants to be like his friends, some of whom take advantage of his good nature.

    He's been in trouble with the police twice, neither were his fault, he was just attacked outside of a club because someone knew he had issues!!!!

    There needs to be something in place so they don't fall off the conveyor belt at 16 years old.

     

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