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My Son is so angry sometimes

matty19

My son is 21 with ADHD and Aspergers. He wants to be a normal young man but struggles sometimes with friends etc.. He has a very violent temper, ( he has had from when he was a child-but then we could hold him to protect him against hurting himself and property). Now he's over 6ft and its like a switch being flipped, one minute he's fine, the next he's physically attacking my husband and his younger brother-he's never touched me I might add. He's so sad afterwards and its like he can't help it, but i'm not sure. Its worse when he's had a drink, and he knows this but he doesn't seem to know when to stop anything, drinking, talking, argueing,eating...so its hard work. Is there counselling out there that could help? I'm not sure if "normal" anger management classes would take into account his Aspergers.

He wants to get help, he needs help before he seriousily hurts someone.

any suggestions

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  • This age limit thing with parents' groups is immensely sad. While parents' groups do a lot of good, and indeed drive national campaigning and underpin NAS, they have always been about parents rather than people with autism.

    Some are supportive of those with autism, but too many are just about parents, and what the parents have to endure (autism by proxy!).

    Until I moved last year I was a member of a parents group to which I paid the highest subscription which was for professional member in order to join. OK most of the time I had a professional involvement, but even after retiring the only sub available to me was professional. There was no membership available for being on the spectrum.

    Consequently the children of these parents were at events as hangers on, even if older ones - there was nothing going on for them other than they came along because their parents were there.

    Part of the problem is that many of these parents seem to believe that somehow there will be a magical cure at adulthood. Or maybe I'm being unfair.....

    The upshot is that the predominance of parents groups in campaigning to a large extent explains the limited understanding of adults with autism.

    It is why I also think "transition" is such a postcode lottery. It is only really being addressed as a sideline of Adult Autism. And in some areas it is 16, others 18, others 21.

    What we've got here is a conveyor belt with nothing at the end of it. The children these parents groups SHOULD be about (notwithstanding its tough on the parents but is it REALLY only about them?) just fall off the end of the conveyor belt into a black hole.

    Moreover many parents groups are fiercely anti adult diagnosis.

    So what are parents groups all about? Despite their fundamental campaigning role, I'm still tempted to say that they are mostly for grumpy, miserable, self-centred NTs who's common ground is they have to suffer for having kids with autism.

    Big outcry yes.....but just have a look at yourselves sometime parents' groups. Who actually has this disability?

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  • This age limit thing with parents' groups is immensely sad. While parents' groups do a lot of good, and indeed drive national campaigning and underpin NAS, they have always been about parents rather than people with autism.

    Some are supportive of those with autism, but too many are just about parents, and what the parents have to endure (autism by proxy!).

    Until I moved last year I was a member of a parents group to which I paid the highest subscription which was for professional member in order to join. OK most of the time I had a professional involvement, but even after retiring the only sub available to me was professional. There was no membership available for being on the spectrum.

    Consequently the children of these parents were at events as hangers on, even if older ones - there was nothing going on for them other than they came along because their parents were there.

    Part of the problem is that many of these parents seem to believe that somehow there will be a magical cure at adulthood. Or maybe I'm being unfair.....

    The upshot is that the predominance of parents groups in campaigning to a large extent explains the limited understanding of adults with autism.

    It is why I also think "transition" is such a postcode lottery. It is only really being addressed as a sideline of Adult Autism. And in some areas it is 16, others 18, others 21.

    What we've got here is a conveyor belt with nothing at the end of it. The children these parents groups SHOULD be about (notwithstanding its tough on the parents but is it REALLY only about them?) just fall off the end of the conveyor belt into a black hole.

    Moreover many parents groups are fiercely anti adult diagnosis.

    So what are parents groups all about? Despite their fundamental campaigning role, I'm still tempted to say that they are mostly for grumpy, miserable, self-centred NTs who's common ground is they have to suffer for having kids with autism.

    Big outcry yes.....but just have a look at yourselves sometime parents' groups. Who actually has this disability?

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