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My Son is so angry sometimes

matty19

My son is 21 with ADHD and Aspergers. He wants to be a normal young man but struggles sometimes with friends etc.. He has a very violent temper, ( he has had from when he was a child-but then we could hold him to protect him against hurting himself and property). Now he's over 6ft and its like a switch being flipped, one minute he's fine, the next he's physically attacking my husband and his younger brother-he's never touched me I might add. He's so sad afterwards and its like he can't help it, but i'm not sure. Its worse when he's had a drink, and he knows this but he doesn't seem to know when to stop anything, drinking, talking, argueing,eating...so its hard work. Is there counselling out there that could help? I'm not sure if "normal" anger management classes would take into account his Aspergers.

He wants to get help, he needs help before he seriousily hurts someone.

any suggestions

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  • The labels are what opens doors to services.  Without diagnoses, it's almost impossible to get support, and professionals will often do things like blame parenting for a child's behavioural issues.  Labels are very important.

    I know this because I have one daughter with a diagnosis and one without (so far) which we are struggling to get.  No-one is listening to me because she doesn't have the label on a piece of paper.  I have also read enough other families' experiences to know that it's the case as well.

    The thing is, perhaps with earlier supports (based on his diagnoses) your son would be less angry and not have needed medication.

    A label also helps someone understand themselves.  I have read of quite a few adults that resented their parents when they found out as adults that they had known when they were little and didn't get them diagnosed.

    You could speak to the GP about whether he needs a slightly higher dose or whether he needs a change of drug.

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  • The labels are what opens doors to services.  Without diagnoses, it's almost impossible to get support, and professionals will often do things like blame parenting for a child's behavioural issues.  Labels are very important.

    I know this because I have one daughter with a diagnosis and one without (so far) which we are struggling to get.  No-one is listening to me because she doesn't have the label on a piece of paper.  I have also read enough other families' experiences to know that it's the case as well.

    The thing is, perhaps with earlier supports (based on his diagnoses) your son would be less angry and not have needed medication.

    A label also helps someone understand themselves.  I have read of quite a few adults that resented their parents when they found out as adults that they had known when they were little and didn't get them diagnosed.

    You could speak to the GP about whether he needs a slightly higher dose or whether he needs a change of drug.

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