Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
I am currently in the process of selling and buying a house. I also work full time and live alone. I am finding the whole process of buying and selling unbearable. I have no parents or support network. For example the survey was cancelled today, I have had to make over 15 phonecalls and I was struggling to speak/just shut down completely on the phone and then burst in to tears.
The sale of the house has gone fairly smoothly, but the purchase is behind so I begin catastrophizing about losing the buyer etc. I appreciate buying a house is stressful, I haven't even gotten to the packing and moving stage, which to be honest is what I am dreading the most. I feel like I have paid agents, brokers etc to handle the 'admin; side of things, which is where I struggle. Oh and phonecalls!
Where would most people turn for advice and support on this issue? It's really not an autism friendly process, especially when I am navigating a change in career as well as home.
I've been telling call handlers that I'm autistic- just to give myself the space to not be misinterpreted. I also tell them that I find phonecalls difficult and that I have already been on a significant number of call sin that day so am drained. I think my hopes were just really pinned on it happening today as well, because without it happening, the process feels lengthened which makes me even more anxious.
Apologies for rambling on, but if anyone has any tips or connections who might support with this, I'd be grateful.
I can't say I found it easy but what did help was lists and packing in a way that helped the other end.
If you have time now you could make a list of all the people you will need to tell, along with email addresses to reduce the stress when you are moving.
If you start packing try to keep things organized so when you empty a box it all goes in the same place.
thanks you. I have bought some flat packed boxes and will start to assemble them. I am keeping a book of daily 'events' todays event was a shocker. 43 days and still the seller hasn't completed the paperwork. I thought i was the ND person in the equation!