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Dating a guy with an autistic son

NAS88803

Hi guys,

Hope you can give me some tips/ advice...

I started to date this amazing guy. He is a father to a teenage autistic boy. I think his son is 12. His son lives with his ex and her new family.

I believe he (the boy) started to going to a new school 2 weeks ago. I am not sure how bad his autism is, to be honest. I don't want to ask questions about it so he doesn't feel I am getting too deep into it. Maybe I should?

He used to go to visit his son once per month, but recently he is there every 2 weeks for few days.

His son was okay 2 weeks ago, but last weekend his anxiety increased.

I guess I am looking for some advice/ tips on how to go through this period and if there is anything you as a parent would expect from your love interest in such situations etc?

What would you want your partner to do?

I really want this to work, and I know he does too. 

I am struggling to be honest sometimes with not seeing him for weeks but I do understand his son is his priority, even though he is not with his mum (he - my guy).

Many thanks:)

J.

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  • in reply to Iain

    We were supposed to meet 2 weeks ago, but he had to stay the whole weekend with his son, even though he wasn't planning that.

    Similar situation this weekend. He went there for a weekend, but it looks like he's staying there for a week or so.

    I know his boy is struggling at the moment, and it's a stressful time for him... 

    It's all great when he's not there. When he's there, our contact is limited because he's focusing on his boy. I hope it will improve soon. We both hope.

  • in reply to NAS88803
    NAS88803 said:
    It's hard not to see him 1 per month, or less...

    I thought it was only a few days every 2 weeks at the moment? If it is weekends then can you do more mid-week dating?

    Maybe ask if you can go with him and spend a few days to lengthen his trip and see some stuff locally like on a holiday.

    Just trying to problem solve here - apologies if I'm being nosey.