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Vacation in New York for British autistic adult

NAS83995

Hello all,

My son is an autistic adult, quite independent, and 25 years old. He wants to go in vacation to New York for about a week in September. Although he's living independently he can be disorganised and in his own world. My wife and I are concerned about him being alone in a big city and managing to keep safe and well.

Is there an organisation of some sort, or an authenticated guide that could support him while he's there? We're thinking someone to meet him at the airport, maybe organise some trips, to check in on him once or twice a day, and be available on the phone if he needs help?

Any help or thoughts gratefully anticipated.

Many thanks

Brendan [removed by Moderator due to rule 2 https://community.autism.org.uk/p/rules]

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  • New York is a pretty intense place and some of the locals can be incredibly rude, so having a autism friendly guide is a good idea.

    There are lot of subtly different social norms there (tipping in restaurants, jaywalking, generallly being pushy etc) which may be a bit of a surprise.

    You may find however that he would benefit from having to do all this himself. Teach him to research and plan / organise if he wants and  this becomes part of the whole adventure.

    It can be part of his growing into an adult and  i suspect the sense of acomplishment would be worth if for him.

  • in reply to Iain

    yeah i dont think he will like tipping.... in the uk tipping is offensive. we cannot afford to tip, we are all poor and people from the uk dont like to ever actually spend money so demanding extra money out of people for nothing is really offensive to a british person lol

  • in reply to Caelus
    Caelus said:
    in the uk tipping is offensive

    Have you been to the US? In place like NY the waiting staff are paid well below minimum wage and expect to make up their money through tips and you are expected to add between 20% and 40% on top of the bill as a tip.

    This can be for very mediocre service and it is not uncommon for staff to give you grief if the don't tip them well.

    This is the sort of confrontational situation I thought may make it difficult for the OPs sone - lack of a set rule for it and the risk of confrontation if you reward poor service with a low tip.

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  • in reply to Caelus
    Caelus said:
    in the uk tipping is offensive

    Have you been to the US? In place like NY the waiting staff are paid well below minimum wage and expect to make up their money through tips and you are expected to add between 20% and 40% on top of the bill as a tip.

    This can be for very mediocre service and it is not uncommon for staff to give you grief if the don't tip them well.

    This is the sort of confrontational situation I thought may make it difficult for the OPs sone - lack of a set rule for it and the risk of confrontation if you reward poor service with a low tip.

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  • in reply to Iain

    so much for americans having guns though and being so called up and ready to take up arms against anyone or any institution or gov that tries to enslave them or make their lives impossible lol 

    they cant even stand up to employers breaking the law. seems people in europe who dont have guns are more ready to take up arms and fight for their rights than americans do. perhaps allowing citisens to have guns actually pacifies them by giving them a false sense that they are in control when they are not and thus because they feel they have control they dont do anything to change anything, because when its in their hands they do nothing as humans naturally are lazy animals lol

  • in reply to Caelus

    The US system has been that way for decades and is not going to change however rubbish it may be so I don't think disecting the immorality of it will help the OPs son.

    I did find a passable guide to it which illustrates why it can be a bit of a minefield:

    www.worldnomads.com/.../tips-and-trouble-in-the-usa

  • in reply to Iain

    shouldnt be paid below minimum wage though, thats why its minimum wage. if your below minimum wage then they should instead ring the regulation services and have the place put back in line and the bosses fired rather than attack their customers and demand more from people who just like them are under paid and struggling too.

    in the uk anything like a tip is already priced into the menu. so your service charges and tips are already paid in the menu price so you know and see price before paying or ordering.