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Vacation in New York for British autistic adult

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Hello all,

My son is an autistic adult, quite independent, and 25 years old. He wants to go in vacation to New York for about a week in September. Although he's living independently he can be disorganised and in his own world. My wife and I are concerned about him being alone in a big city and managing to keep safe and well.

Is there an organisation of some sort, or an authenticated guide that could support him while he's there? We're thinking someone to meet him at the airport, maybe organise some trips, to check in on him once or twice a day, and be available on the phone if he needs help?

Any help or thoughts gratefully anticipated.

Many thanks

Brendan [removed by Moderator due to rule 2 https://community.autism.org.uk/p/rules]

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  • New York is a pretty intense place and some of the locals can be incredibly rude, so having a autism friendly guide is a good idea.

    There are lot of subtly different social norms there (tipping in restaurants, jaywalking, generallly being pushy etc) which may be a bit of a surprise.

    You may find however that he would benefit from having to do all this himself. Teach him to research and plan / organise if he wants and  this becomes part of the whole adventure.

    It can be part of his growing into an adult and  i suspect the sense of acomplishment would be worth if for him.

  • in reply to Iain

    I honestly found New Yorkers much more polite than my native Londoners.

  • in reply to Luftmentsch
    Luftmentsch said:
    I honestly found New Yorkers much more polite than my native Londoners

    I used to go twice a year when my wife had a stand at a fashion trade show so I got to deal with the tourist side when we were out and about, the showroom we were paying to represent us in the US and the workers at the trade show.

    Most were superficially nice but if they would turn quickly if things weren't going smoothly. People trying to get to work etc were typically, err, abrupt to be generous about them (stuff like "out the damn way buddy" if I was walking too slowly when taking in the architecture.

    Most of this was more downtown (south of 23rd Street and into the docks area so maybe that was different to your experience.

    I did work in a bank head office for a while (I looked after IT in Latin America for them for a year) and they were fine too.

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  • in reply to Luftmentsch
    Luftmentsch said:
    I honestly found New Yorkers much more polite than my native Londoners

    I used to go twice a year when my wife had a stand at a fashion trade show so I got to deal with the tourist side when we were out and about, the showroom we were paying to represent us in the US and the workers at the trade show.

    Most were superficially nice but if they would turn quickly if things weren't going smoothly. People trying to get to work etc were typically, err, abrupt to be generous about them (stuff like "out the damn way buddy" if I was walking too slowly when taking in the architecture.

    Most of this was more downtown (south of 23rd Street and into the docks area so maybe that was different to your experience.

    I did work in a bank head office for a while (I looked after IT in Latin America for them for a year) and they were fine too.

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