It is completely free and they are very strict on proof of identity to try to ensure safety.
It is for friendship as well as dating. When I signed up very briefly last year that wasn't working well and users were being messaged about dating when they had specified friendship only in their profile. Hopefully things will have improved since the strict id verification was introduced.
I cannot vouch for it personally. I only signed up briefly out of curiosity. When I didn't send the required id my account got deleted automatically.
Perhaps it would be a useful thing for autism charities to facilitate. Given how little is done for autistic adults who are capable of independent living, investing in running a dating website might be one of the best things they could do. It would have to be more rigorously policed than typical - neurotypical - dating websites to protect potentially vulnerable people from abuse.
maybe, could be, i guess i get set in my ways and dont see myself doing other stuff, like going to manchester! lol as its outside of my norm. i guess id seek a easy person to slot into my life but thats not easy as everyones all over the fecking place going everywhere near and far all the time. medieval era would have been easier for me when i reflect on that, no one left their home town travel was not normal, everyones lives slotted perfectly in with one another.
Not having a go at you, but asking an honest question.
Do you think this negativity would be impacting your chances of success?
A lot of early stage discussions in relationships build on positives - things you both like or want to try and the pleasure of introducing the other person to the things you enjoy.
When one partner in the conversation is quite negative then it can be a big turnoff.
I don't know what you are like in person so this isn't a criticism, but asking you to consider if this could be a part of it. No need to share if you are not comfortable.
i dont really go anywhere, it would feel weird and abnormal i guess
This can be a problem when you are trying to mix socially with neurotypicals, especially in a field like dating where so many subtleties are overanalysed.
The things we struggle with are perceived as red flags to NTs so it isn't unsurprising this would happen.
Were you up front about your autism and the issues you have with travel?
all of them. i tried pof but all the women are really judgemental. there was one that contacted back locally but then asked to go out to manchester and i dunno it feels out of my character to go to manchester, i dont really go anywhere, it would feel weird and abnormal i guess.
I just feel the need to respond, because I’m so under-equipped to add anything meaningful to this discussion, that I feel the need to state it. I treat my love-life like I treat my work-life. I’m unemployed..
Do you mean just the autistic oriented ones or all of them?
I've worked with people who were able to find their partners (eithe casual or long term) through dating sites, but they were neurotypical colleagues. Those were plenyoffish and tinder.
They can be a bit of a minefield mind you, but reading up on what to look for as red flags is the way to go, followed by some due diligence.
dating sites dont work as they usually all have dodgy lock outs where you cant message anyone because messages are behind paywalls, but then you get random fake accounts messaging you and to see their message you have to pay, but yet they are fake anyway because real women dont actually message you on dating sites especially right away, they are all fake accounts trying to incentivise you to pay.
