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Hitting a low now

mumof4boys772

Ok im hitting low now,son 6 no diagnoses,am 99.9% sure he has high functioning or apsbergers,i have lost around 2 or 3 stone due to stress.

Had to take my older son to a&e on holiday with breathing problems,its turned out to be a panic attack,due to all the stress from the younger child.

Went to the gp and asked to be re reffered to cahms as wed already been knocked back once and told to go on a parenting course and now shes reffered us again.

This is having a huge impact on our family,apprently my son is a good boy at school,obiouvly on ieps and seen 2 pychologists.

I feel like my family is falling apart,just recently my 16 year old told me hes been to the doc for anti depressants because things are so bad.

I dunno what to do anymore,i feel like theres no help,no support,no nothng because he has no diagnoses.  Even when i went to the gps the other day,she said i know hes had the ados and hes failed however reading between the lines...............

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  • I don't know the situation with your older Son, or what specifically triggered the panic attacks, but obviously this is serious issue, whether or not your younger child has Aspergers, Autism or anything else that might be a cause of certain behaviours.

    I have had personal experience with CAMHS (Regarding PTSD, anxiety and depression caused by an assault in my earlier years) and the doctor I saw was very condescending, told me that my issues were because I was struggling at school and should probably not be attempting A levels (Even though I was exceeding all targets...)

    That was of course only my experience, and I would hope that you have a more positive one when it eventually comes (The waiting lists are appalling and unnecessary) just be aware that they are not able to provide a wonder solution, but a diagnosis might be a helpful step in the right direction.

    If your older son's secondary school/college (I'm presuming first year 6thform/college) has a TicTac or Connexions organisation, it might be worth suggesting he try out counselling there, I saw a counsellor once a week at College during my A Levels and it helped me to develop a lot of coping techniques, especially for helping prevent anxiety attacks.

    I’m afraid without knowing your son’s behavioural issues and your older son’s anxiety depression causes (which I’ve no doubt is a complicated variety of factors…) I can’t offer much by way of advice, but if you have any specific questions or worries, I may be able to help, I would certainly be happy to do what I can, as somebody who has been on both sides of this struggle..

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  • I don't know the situation with your older Son, or what specifically triggered the panic attacks, but obviously this is serious issue, whether or not your younger child has Aspergers, Autism or anything else that might be a cause of certain behaviours.

    I have had personal experience with CAMHS (Regarding PTSD, anxiety and depression caused by an assault in my earlier years) and the doctor I saw was very condescending, told me that my issues were because I was struggling at school and should probably not be attempting A levels (Even though I was exceeding all targets...)

    That was of course only my experience, and I would hope that you have a more positive one when it eventually comes (The waiting lists are appalling and unnecessary) just be aware that they are not able to provide a wonder solution, but a diagnosis might be a helpful step in the right direction.

    If your older son's secondary school/college (I'm presuming first year 6thform/college) has a TicTac or Connexions organisation, it might be worth suggesting he try out counselling there, I saw a counsellor once a week at College during my A Levels and it helped me to develop a lot of coping techniques, especially for helping prevent anxiety attacks.

    I’m afraid without knowing your son’s behavioural issues and your older son’s anxiety depression causes (which I’ve no doubt is a complicated variety of factors…) I can’t offer much by way of advice, but if you have any specific questions or worries, I may be able to help, I would certainly be happy to do what I can, as somebody who has been on both sides of this struggle..

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