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My daughter just got diagnosed with autistic traits and conduct disorder

Kittylove

Hi all I'm new here I've been fighting with my daughters school since she was 5 to admit there's something wrong she is now 8 and we finally got to see a community paed yesterday where he diagnosed her with autistic traits and conduct disorder I was so shocked as I thought it was maybe ADHD not autism and I have no idea what conduct disorder is ??? I felt rather over wealmed by it all so completely forgot to ask any questions and now have hundreds floating around my head I'm really struggling with her behaviour all ready and the doctor said that it will get worse (that was enough to scare me) he wants to see her back in 3-6 months for some more assessments but other than that I don't know what to do what happens from here the school can't cope with her so as a result she only does one hour a day people don't want me to visit when I've got her because she is such a handful and she in their words "does they're head in" I just feel completely lost and really don't know where to go from here any suggestions ??

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  • Hi - welcome.  Everyone here will understand how over-whelming all this is for you - it is a lot to take in.  It'll take time so don't try to learn everything at once.  There's loads of info via the home pg on all sorts of things.  Also the posts are very informative.  Your daughter is very likely to be under a lot of stress at school.  I would ask for a statement of educational needs for her so she can get the support she needs.  Her behaviour is a reaction to the stress.  I think it's important to understand how autism affects your child as an individual.  Is she verbal?  Has she got a set daily routine she can rely on?  Is that routine designed to take her autism into account etc.  Has she got any sensory issues such as certain noises, smells, tastes, fabrics etc which upset or worse?  The other thing is that in my opinion a parent shouldn't relate to their autistic child in the same way as they would a non-autistic child - it simply doesn't work + can make matters worse.  I think the best thing to do is to get yourself acquainted with autism, recognise how it affects your daughter, make changes in your daily lives to accommodate that + get a statement of educational needs.  I know it sounds like a mountain to climb but remember, 1 step at a time.  The more you understand, the more you can relate to her + help her + things should start to improve.  You''ll find your increased understanding will mean you see your daughter in a different way + you'll realise how difficult life can be for her.  Also don't forget to come back here with any questions you may have. (smileys not working again!)

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  • Hi - welcome.  Everyone here will understand how over-whelming all this is for you - it is a lot to take in.  It'll take time so don't try to learn everything at once.  There's loads of info via the home pg on all sorts of things.  Also the posts are very informative.  Your daughter is very likely to be under a lot of stress at school.  I would ask for a statement of educational needs for her so she can get the support she needs.  Her behaviour is a reaction to the stress.  I think it's important to understand how autism affects your child as an individual.  Is she verbal?  Has she got a set daily routine she can rely on?  Is that routine designed to take her autism into account etc.  Has she got any sensory issues such as certain noises, smells, tastes, fabrics etc which upset or worse?  The other thing is that in my opinion a parent shouldn't relate to their autistic child in the same way as they would a non-autistic child - it simply doesn't work + can make matters worse.  I think the best thing to do is to get yourself acquainted with autism, recognise how it affects your daughter, make changes in your daily lives to accommodate that + get a statement of educational needs.  I know it sounds like a mountain to climb but remember, 1 step at a time.  The more you understand, the more you can relate to her + help her + things should start to improve.  You''ll find your increased understanding will mean you see your daughter in a different way + you'll realise how difficult life can be for her.  Also don't forget to come back here with any questions you may have. (smileys not working again!)

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