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How do you deal with constant messages?

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How do you deal with people who message you constantly?

My boyfriend’s mum messages me on Facebook numerous times a day. She will say ‘you ok?’ At least twice a day, sometimes up to five times!! She sends me random photos constantly (last week in just one day she sent me a photo of her sideboard, a photo of her toe and a photo of a wooden clock). She takes screenshots of things from Facebook and sends them to me with no explanation. Her messages are chit chat and offer no substance. I hate chit chat. My family know not to message me unless they want to talk about something important but she just sends me utter rubbish. She has done this for years. It sends my anxiety levels through the roof. My boyfriend has told her numerous times to stop but she doesn’t. I’ve ignored her, muted her etc but nothing makes her stop. I’ve even told her I don’t like it and to stop and she still doesn’t. 

It makes me want to delete my Facebook just to get away from it. She keeps asking for my phone number which I’ve obviously not given her! What do I do?!

  • I've some people a bit like that.  I just ignore them or send a thumbs up in messenger.

  • This sounds like a joke reply but it really isn't, Some days I just turn off my phone. And trust that if it's a true emergency someone would come round and knock on my door or call my landline instead, then I turn my mobile back on the day after after I have had a good break from it.
    And some apps that are the worst offenders I just delete from my phone and resolve to get to messages from those sites in my own time when I sit down at my PC instead.
    Other apps I chage to silent notifications so I will see the messages in my own time when I pick up my phone for something else later.
    Also I know it feels like another social fax pas that maybe we aren't supposed to do but you %100 can block your boyfriend's mum and explain or not explain it made you feel uncomfortable, and you are perfectly valid for doing so because it's not her you are in a relationship with. If anything she's doing the weird thing.

  • Hi just unfriend him/her which you can do in your setting or if you can give him a retraining order if you want but yeah . This guy i met just 1mon ago does the same and i just say shut the f*ck up everytime . He has my whatsapp business number and all my social media so i  ignor him yeah . 

  • Your boyfriend's mum sounds a little like my mother. She will send me things on Messenger, such as photos, links to things she has seen on Facebook or elsewhere. Quite often, there will be no accompanying message explaining why these links or whatever have been shared with me. Admittedly, it's rare that she bombards me with multiple messages.

    Based on what you have said, if you don't want to unfriend and/or block her, I think the only option you really have left is to just ignore her.

  • Oh my god that would be my worst nightmare. My family know not to message me unless its got substance as well, I absolutely hate small talk/unneccessary talk. If it were me, I would tell her one last time that the constant messaging just gives me anxiety and Id really appreciate it if she messaged only when something important came up. If she ignores that conversation then Id absolutely unfriend or even block her on facebook. theres nothing more you can do at that point for her to listen. whatever you decide, I hope it helps and best of luck

  • To unfriend someone's profile on Facebook:

    • Go to that profile by typing their profile name into the search bar at the top of Facebook.
    • Click  at the top of their profile.
    • Click Unfriend, then Confirm.

    If you feel harassed by all the trivia, and she knows it and still keeps sending it, I think unfriending is quite justified. If she is hurt and complains, say you will 're-friend' her under certain conditions. Tell her that this is the 'last chance saloon' and if she breaks your conditions unfriend her permanently.