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Constantly Masking

Mrs Claus

I'm finding the older I get the more I mask and I'm not sure why. Maybe just pressures from family and society? But I know I'm doing it but I'm struggling to stop and keep in control it's like a continuous battle and I'm finding it both irritating and extremely draining. I'm exhausted all the time and it's started to show like dark circles under my eyes and my eyes sting a lot. I'm trying not to mask but at the same time I don't know how to function round others without it.

Hoping some of you might have some good tips for me Slight smile

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  • You know, I still find this a tough concept to grasp.  I don't think I ever go about life pretending to be different to be acceptable, but I am sure I have a hundred and one exhausting compensation strategies to get to the 'what others think' business and 'what do they need of me' business and 'how to communicate what I really mean so they'll get it' business.

    Is there a difference between 'masking' and 'adaptation' or compensation?

    Drawing on logic rather than intuiting this stuff is tiring for sure.  But if I didn't do that, I'd never successfully communicate with anyone.

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  • You know, I still find this a tough concept to grasp.  I don't think I ever go about life pretending to be different to be acceptable, but I am sure I have a hundred and one exhausting compensation strategies to get to the 'what others think' business and 'what do they need of me' business and 'how to communicate what I really mean so they'll get it' business.

    Is there a difference between 'masking' and 'adaptation' or compensation?

    Drawing on logic rather than intuiting this stuff is tiring for sure.  But if I didn't do that, I'd never successfully communicate with anyone.

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