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Any thoughts on supporting a daughter transition to life after school?

NAS81928

Hi All,

My daughter is autistic (is it mild? High functioning?). She’s just finished school and got grades that would allow her to go to university. The idea of change was too much for her last year to discuss/talk about whilst still doing A levels. Now she’s out the other side, she’s got to do things like: get some work experience; get her driving license; get her ucas form done (if she wants to go to university - she doesn’t like talking about it). 
Has anyone got advice on how to talk to her about her future? It’s a challenging time with her wanting to avoid anything but watching Netflix all day! 

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  • Firstly, it’s Autism. We don’t say it’s mild, because that’s playing down things. If she didn’t struggle with certain aspects of her life, she wouldn’t have been diagnosed. 
    So….does your daughter want to the things you mentioned? You said she’s got to do them? Who said she has to?

    You will need to talk to her about her plans if she has any. She might find it easier if you write to her? A simple open text, or email perhaps. She probably doesn’t want to talk about because it’s too much. She’s just finished her A levels, and I imagine that was very tough for her. 
    Avoiding is her keeping her stress levels down. The less stimuli the better. She’s obviously struggling right now. 

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  • Firstly, it’s Autism. We don’t say it’s mild, because that’s playing down things. If she didn’t struggle with certain aspects of her life, she wouldn’t have been diagnosed. 
    So….does your daughter want to the things you mentioned? You said she’s got to do them? Who said she has to?

    You will need to talk to her about her plans if she has any. She might find it easier if you write to her? A simple open text, or email perhaps. She probably doesn’t want to talk about because it’s too much. She’s just finished her A levels, and I imagine that was very tough for her. 
    Avoiding is her keeping her stress levels down. The less stimuli the better. She’s obviously struggling right now. 

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