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Having an Autistic Partner…

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I have a partner who is high functioning and very intelligent. I love him dearly. We are trying to negotiate having a relationship and I really struggle with several issues.

Anyone else here have strategies that work or an insight from the other side so to speak?
Thank you

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  • You are describing my husband to a T. In our last argument, I wrote him a letter. I told him exactly what impact his words had, how it made me sad and specifically what behaviour I wanted him  to change. It worked brilliantly for a few months - and I’m getting to the point where he might need a reminder. I also give him lots of space. I tell him my needs (e.g I need a hug or on Friday get ready for a shag!) When he’s curt or short, I ignore it - it’s not him being short or not interested. 

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  • You are describing my husband to a T. In our last argument, I wrote him a letter. I told him exactly what impact his words had, how it made me sad and specifically what behaviour I wanted him  to change. It worked brilliantly for a few months - and I’m getting to the point where he might need a reminder. I also give him lots of space. I tell him my needs (e.g I need a hug or on Friday get ready for a shag!) When he’s curt or short, I ignore it - it’s not him being short or not interested. 

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