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I feel trapped in my own mind

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I cant stop my mind from going off on internal dialogs about people, who when i feel balanced and centered i feel indifferent and even happy and loving towards. I am being stretched really thin mentally and physically right now, its a whole long story about my living situation I'm about to be free from, but yeah anyways, i have been trying to just let them pass and focus on activity's and work a lot, i find myself having this stuff happen still and it starts to overwhelm me and i go into these like frustrated rage fits, i try breathing exercises, looking at open spaces, trying to counter balance the thoughts with nice thoughts which is really hard sometimes, i will just be so focused on whatever happened that makes the person come to mind, like i really just want to be sweet and kind and especially in my mind, i don't like wasting my time thinking thoughts like this.

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  • It sounds like you are dealing with Unresolved Issues. The Autists Worst Nightmare. 

    I genuinely believe we are analytical by nature. And can be excellent problem solvers. But open ended complicated situations involving matters of the heart or matters of investment, issues where roles and responsibilities are too fluid and where ground rules are broken, these are some of the most Anxiety-Inducing. 

    If you can, I’d remove yourself from the situation and start writing everything down. Do not avoid thinking about it. Engage your mind and get it all out on paper/in a document. Begin to unravel the exchanges and look up online what is happening. 

    Similar to the feeling that 2+2 really is 4, you will feel much more at ease once you can identify or name what is happening. Critical thinking is about engaging with a width of problems and outcomes and being able to examine them regardless of how unpleasant they are. 

    First, we need a safe space to do this where there aren’t unreasonable demands. In a complicated situation with another adult, they should be able to afford you as much space as you need to Think. With a child I’m responsible for this is different. But warning that many adults demand more of others than they’re willing to give themselves. It’s much better for everyone if we have sufficient uninterrupted time to process and this could mean a few days to a few years to releasing the relationship from any future ownership/dues/responsibilities. 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    I always love your perspective on things JuniperFromGallifrey - and your suggestions are always so interesting and helpful too. I love what you’ve written here. I don’t know what you do for a living but I think you’d make an excellent Counsellor. 

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  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Thanks. I really like sharing what I've learned over the years. I currently work in a sort of post production/sound situation but have been studying ethics to psychology in depth for quite some time. I know it can be confusing for parents and traumatising for children, these differences, but I think we all can benefit one another and really think the world would be just a little better if we did!