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Stonechat

Hi Everyone

Last week I was diagnosed with Asperger's.

I'm in my 50's and had suspected I was an Aspie for quite some time. The last 50 years have been difficult, to put it mildly, so for me confirming I am an Aspie has been a very positive experience. So good to put the last fifty years into perspective. Like having your life fall into place - I guess  -  all the parts of a puzzle fitting together.

Are there any Aspie's out there who have had a similar experience? 

 

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  • Hi Stonechat,

    That's what happened to me too - diagnosed at 50, after years of trying & failing to fit in and make sense of how other people interact. The great thing is being able to come to terms with yourself, rather than constantly trying to remedy all those faults which were not faults - it's such a relief.

    Then you can read about the condition - I kept yelling "but I'm like that!" at the page - fantastic. And then I began to rebuild my life around what will suit the me that I am getting to know, rather than what I thought it ought to look like.

    It doesn't take away the problems of social interaction, but I can accept that more easily because I know why. I don't try to force myself to be chatty, which never worked anyway. And when I was bullied at work, as happens to so many of us, I could threaten to report the bullying of a person with autism, which shut them up very quickly - the threat was enough.

    I wish local services, GPs, etc, would recognise our occassional needs, and that there were more social groups for older adults, but we are a minority within a minority, so it will take a while.

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  • Hi Stonechat,

    That's what happened to me too - diagnosed at 50, after years of trying & failing to fit in and make sense of how other people interact. The great thing is being able to come to terms with yourself, rather than constantly trying to remedy all those faults which were not faults - it's such a relief.

    Then you can read about the condition - I kept yelling "but I'm like that!" at the page - fantastic. And then I began to rebuild my life around what will suit the me that I am getting to know, rather than what I thought it ought to look like.

    It doesn't take away the problems of social interaction, but I can accept that more easily because I know why. I don't try to force myself to be chatty, which never worked anyway. And when I was bullied at work, as happens to so many of us, I could threaten to report the bullying of a person with autism, which shut them up very quickly - the threat was enough.

    I wish local services, GPs, etc, would recognise our occassional needs, and that there were more social groups for older adults, but we are a minority within a minority, so it will take a while.

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