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Wife has Apserger's Syndrome

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Hello! Bit nervous being here.

I know for a fact that my wife has Aspergers. She has very poor social skills and has only 1 friend. It is putting a strain on our marriage.

She has never been diagnosed. I mentioned to her once that I thought she had Apsergers but she denies she has. Talking with her is very tough as she is unable to have a discussuin without getting volatile. 

Any suggestions as to my next move?

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  • Educate yourself as much as possible regarding AS. If you are convinced then you are going to have to convince your wife that it needs exploring. Then visit your Dr and get a referal to an AS specialist.  getting a diagnosis can be a long process and may require a degree of determination.

    Have you had any counselling as a couple as you indicated that the problem is the 'strain on your marriage'. Any counselling would be most benificial if it is from sommeone who is experienced with AS (assuming that your wife has AS).

    By learning about AS yourself will give you an understanding that in itself will be helpful to a relationship. Getting a diagnosis is a bit like getting a new rule book. I only got an official diagnosis last year but it has really helped both me and my partners relationship.

    Also, consider what the reasons would be for getting a diagnosis. How would you and your wife benifit?

    Aspergers or not, it sounds like you need some help with insight.

    You said ' I mentioned to her once that I thought she had Apsergers but she denies she has'. Why do you think she has and why does she think she hasn't?

    Good luck :-)

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  • Educate yourself as much as possible regarding AS. If you are convinced then you are going to have to convince your wife that it needs exploring. Then visit your Dr and get a referal to an AS specialist.  getting a diagnosis can be a long process and may require a degree of determination.

    Have you had any counselling as a couple as you indicated that the problem is the 'strain on your marriage'. Any counselling would be most benificial if it is from sommeone who is experienced with AS (assuming that your wife has AS).

    By learning about AS yourself will give you an understanding that in itself will be helpful to a relationship. Getting a diagnosis is a bit like getting a new rule book. I only got an official diagnosis last year but it has really helped both me and my partners relationship.

    Also, consider what the reasons would be for getting a diagnosis. How would you and your wife benifit?

    Aspergers or not, it sounds like you need some help with insight.

    You said ' I mentioned to her once that I thought she had Apsergers but she denies she has'. Why do you think she has and why does she think she hasn't?

    Good luck :-)

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