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Understanding your place in a relationship

Geestar8

Hi I’m georgia and I have a diagnoses as well. I’ve been struggling to understand how to be in a relationship as I can’t seem to keep one. I don’t understand people at all which is ironic as I’m doing a degree in people. I guess what I’m asking is if anyone who can help, I tend to get in a muddle a lot and the people I’m with don’t understand that there’s certain things that I do differently not by choice but by nature and they find it difficult to cope with and I then find it hard to cope with everyone leaving all the time because of me not understanding what’s going on. It’s all very confusing and if I’ve made any sense I would be great fil for a pointers or even someone who’s able to understand me and this difficulty. 
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  • I 100% agrew with this. My husband is the same way when it comes to talking. He needs time to think and really figure out what he is feeling before speaking.

    I come from a family of emothional fueled shouters. So I was always ready to fly off the handle and yell, in the time my husband and I have been together I have learned to be more thoughtful and shout less. It makes life easier, at least for us, if we both pause and think about how we feel and what we need before we talk. This can require a deal of patience on my part. But I feel we solve problems and work through emotions better when there is no yelling involved.

    Another aspect of our relationship is the simple fact that we would never intentionally hurt one another. If I feel he has done something just to make me mad I remind myself that making me mad for no reason is silly and he loves me and he would never seek to make me mad. Just like I never seek to make him mad.

    Sorry that was long, but yeah, communication is where it's at.

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  • I 100% agrew with this. My husband is the same way when it comes to talking. He needs time to think and really figure out what he is feeling before speaking.

    I come from a family of emothional fueled shouters. So I was always ready to fly off the handle and yell, in the time my husband and I have been together I have learned to be more thoughtful and shout less. It makes life easier, at least for us, if we both pause and think about how we feel and what we need before we talk. This can require a deal of patience on my part. But I feel we solve problems and work through emotions better when there is no yelling involved.

    Another aspect of our relationship is the simple fact that we would never intentionally hurt one another. If I feel he has done something just to make me mad I remind myself that making me mad for no reason is silly and he loves me and he would never seek to make me mad. Just like I never seek to make him mad.

    Sorry that was long, but yeah, communication is where it's at.

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