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Understanding your place in a relationship

Geestar8

Hi I’m georgia and I have a diagnoses as well. I’ve been struggling to understand how to be in a relationship as I can’t seem to keep one. I don’t understand people at all which is ironic as I’m doing a degree in people. I guess what I’m asking is if anyone who can help, I tend to get in a muddle a lot and the people I’m with don’t understand that there’s certain things that I do differently not by choice but by nature and they find it difficult to cope with and I then find it hard to cope with everyone leaving all the time because of me not understanding what’s going on. It’s all very confusing and if I’ve made any sense I would be great fil for a pointers or even someone who’s able to understand me and this difficulty. 
Thankyou Blush

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  • Can you give us some examples of the situations in which people 'leave' because of you?

  • in reply to Peter

    So In past relationships They’ve left because according to what they said I’m emotionless and don’t open up. Also it’s the same over and over with misunderstandings which I know is everyday life with everyone but obviously in my case just listening to someone I can misunderstand them and constantly told this so it’s these issues that has made people leave apparently but personally they were toxic abusive people anyway  

  • in reply to Geestar8

    Then to some extent you will need to open up. See people are used to read emotions in peoples faces and when they can't do that so easily, as is sometimes the case when they interact with autistic people, it's more inportant to verbalise your feelings to those you are close to. so they don't have to guess. but at the same time misunderstandings are just part and parcel of dealing with autistic peoples communication issues some some expectation management with the people close to you might be in order.

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  • in reply to Geestar8

    Then to some extent you will need to open up. See people are used to read emotions in peoples faces and when they can't do that so easily, as is sometimes the case when they interact with autistic people, it's more inportant to verbalise your feelings to those you are close to. so they don't have to guess. but at the same time misunderstandings are just part and parcel of dealing with autistic peoples communication issues some some expectation management with the people close to you might be in order.

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