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Not sure how much more I can take!

Annah

Hello,


Sorry this is going to be a bit of a rant I think......
I just don't know how much more I can take of it all at the moment!
My daughters been on the waiting list for an ados since June last year and it was due to be done in January.
I keep calling to check and one of the drs left and so there is a backlog and they can't tell me how much longer its going to be...
My daughter is getting worse in terms of her violence, growling, pinching, unreasonableness, difficulty etc etc and the whole time I'm waiting I feel in limbo. I've had time off work and I'm on meds because I just can't cope. I've cried every day this week and I just feel like I can't go on. I love her so much but it hurts to see her so scared of life and wondering why she has no friends and I am just so worried she'll never be happy, even I don't make her happy anymore. 
All I want to do at the moment is run away and I think I've put all my hope on this test and they might not even say she has asd!! 
Sorry. I said it would be a rant I just needed to blurt and I need someone to tell me I'm normal feeling like this, I just feel like a complete failure!!
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  • hi annah, i know it feels like this diagnosis is the most important thing at the moment, but things will actually become easier when u just accept that ur daughter has difficulties, and learn some strategies to help u with that. i found that everyone saying, its probably bad behaviour because u have changed his situation, made me focus on the diagnosis. I needed to prove it wasnt my fault. i stopped listeneing to my son, and doubted wether he did have problems, or wether he was just "punishing" me! things became really bad, tense, and just horrible. then i decided to just accept the difficulties, and work with them, i listened and reasoned with my son. i picked my battles, i joined a group called concious parenting. fantastic thoughts that really make sense. for some reason, everything happened quickly after that and the diagnosis was made. but my children have been much happier since "I" became happier. i hope this helps, knowing someone else has struggled, btw my son is 10, so struggled with this for years, he also has a diagnosis of adhd xx

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  • hi annah, i know it feels like this diagnosis is the most important thing at the moment, but things will actually become easier when u just accept that ur daughter has difficulties, and learn some strategies to help u with that. i found that everyone saying, its probably bad behaviour because u have changed his situation, made me focus on the diagnosis. I needed to prove it wasnt my fault. i stopped listeneing to my son, and doubted wether he did have problems, or wether he was just "punishing" me! things became really bad, tense, and just horrible. then i decided to just accept the difficulties, and work with them, i listened and reasoned with my son. i picked my battles, i joined a group called concious parenting. fantastic thoughts that really make sense. for some reason, everything happened quickly after that and the diagnosis was made. but my children have been much happier since "I" became happier. i hope this helps, knowing someone else has struggled, btw my son is 10, so struggled with this for years, he also has a diagnosis of adhd xx

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