Housework

You probably can't! I don't think your exaggerating. I had extreme trouble managing life when I was younger. Eventually I tried explaining to a couples therapist how I had "no time" and he concurred. What struck me is the therapist asked how my commute was. To which I said, "enjoyable". And it was. I read, I breathed, I loved every minute of the tram even though it was packed and noisy, it was the only minutes rest I had in a day. And this was a 'Red Flag' my life was completely out of order as most humans hate the commute, they just want to get to where they're going.

I still have all amounts of trouble with time management and anything 'administrative'. But I literally lived once like a slave: no time for myself, for reflection, for rest, for anything enjoyable, just catching up with the next minute, barely making it to the end of the day.

Re-negotiating the ordering of your life is no short of an overhaul. Have you ever tried taking a pen & notepad (not digital) with you through the day and writing down everything your doing just after doing it? If this seems difficult, you could set up a one hour timer to remind yourself to write down what your doing. Do this for a week.

When I was younger the start to re-negotiation was recommended by a much older and wiser woman who said it was necessary a friend or the other parent take charge one day a week and I should leave the house for at least half the day. Go to the library if necessary or read in the park. This would be difficult in lockdown and while it's cold out. But that was a good start to making a change!

You probably can't! I don't think your exaggerating. I had extreme trouble managing life when I was younger. Eventually I tried explaining to a couples therapist how I had "no time" and he concurred. What struck me is the therapist asked how my commute was. To which I said, "enjoyable". And it was. I read, I breathed, I loved every minute of the tram even though it was packed and noisy, it was the only minutes rest I had in a day. And this was a 'Red Flag' my life was completely out of order as most humans hate the commute, they just want to get to where they're going.

I still have all amounts of trouble with time management and anything 'administrative'. But I literally lived once like a slave: no time for myself, for reflection, for rest, for anything enjoyable, just catching up with the next minute, barely making it to the end of the day.

Re-negotiating the ordering of your life is no short of an overhaul. Have you ever tried taking a pen & notepad (not digital) with you through the day and writing down everything your doing just after doing it? If this seems difficult, you could set up a one hour timer to remind yourself to write down what your doing. Do this for a week.

When I was younger the start to re-negotiation was recommended by a much older and wiser woman who said it was necessary a friend or the other parent take charge one day a week and I should leave the house for at least half the day. Go to the library if necessary or read in the park. This would be difficult in lockdown and while it's cold out. But that was a good start to making a change!