No, no. You don't get it. You have Autism

When I was in University, I joined the local Dungeons and Dragons club. I was met by a DM, called Austin, Austin was a jacked up guy who studies psychology and liked to bodybuild. All the player gathered in the room. It was a session of Dungeons and Dragons.

For record, the DM knows I am autistic. When another player named Greg started making bigotted jokes during session 0; sexism, homophobia, racism etc and I would angry and upset at it, Austin would take me to the side and slowly "explain" the joke over and over again until "I got it" saying my autism got in the way of humour.

When I tried to leave, he would stop me and try to "reason it out", ask me to explain my reason. He would then deny anything, then would explain that I just don't get it, it's just a joke all for laughs. He then tried to get me to "get the jokes" again. He would constantly say to other players that "I don't get social cues so don't mind her" and would list any symptoms of autism I would show at the game and say to the players to not be angry and that my brain doesn't function as normal.

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  • You need to get out of that club, it may have taken you a little while to notice it but their is something properly sinister with this person stopping you from leaving. 

    I am all for inclusion and sometimes someone else may explain oddities of autism but if you feel he doesn’t have enough understanding to explain autism, call him out on it. 

    I have learnt that the term banter is used by not so pleasant people and use it to humiliate you. Just stop attending you have expressed your wish to no longer participate. 

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  • You need to get out of that club, it may have taken you a little while to notice it but their is something properly sinister with this person stopping you from leaving. 

    I am all for inclusion and sometimes someone else may explain oddities of autism but if you feel he doesn’t have enough understanding to explain autism, call him out on it. 

    I have learnt that the term banter is used by not so pleasant people and use it to humiliate you. Just stop attending you have expressed your wish to no longer participate. 

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