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Dealing with an 'off-day'

NAS66392

Hi. I have been getting by despite this coronavirus lockdown but today I have been feeling quite low. I think it is due to my hormones (PMS), the monotony of lockdown and possibly a day when i just feel low due to my mental health. I just want today to be where I am left alone, can go back to bed if I want to, deal with emails and essays and just relax. But I have to go out because I feell like if I do not then the people I am living with will accuse me of being unwilful, inconsiderate, antisocial and a bit of a cow. I know I have not always been a good person to be with in lockdown which is why I feel like I have to get out of my room to please them, but I really do not want to and I am worried that if I say that they will get annoyed at me for thinking I am making them miserable and add it to the list of reasons why in their heads they want to kick me out when lockdown is over. It's just for one day I feel low and I feel terrible for being in this state. I do not know what to do as I do not want to be accused of giving out *** vibes (again when I deliberately was not trying to). I am just tired of being asked what I am doing all the time and not being allowed to just breathe.

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  • Hi there, you are allowed an off day, listen to your body and it will tell you what you need to do; not others who are trying to satisfy their own needs. You may be fine later or tomorrow, but right now be kind to yourself :)

  • in reply to Oscie

    Thank you. I am feeling more okay now. But now I am slightly anxious that they are still annoyed with me Disappointed

  • in reply to NAS66392

    I am glad that you're feeling ok now. Everything is temporary .... it will pass. Are you able to create some space, mentally  or physical for yourself?When  I want to be left alone I remove myself and tell my partner that I need some headspace, even if it's just to another room or wearing my noise defenders. I probably look pretty weird Sweat smile but I don't care, as long as I can 'empty my bucket'. People with an ASD do not have the same capacity as NTs, so need to keep an eye on their bucket  in case it overflows;  resulting in  a meltdown. You won't be able to change or control how other people behave, that's a given. What you can control,  is how much you manage that influence on you. Protect yourself as much as you can, you have every right to a good quality of life like anyone else, your not defective - just different :)

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  • in reply to NAS66392

    I am glad that you're feeling ok now. Everything is temporary .... it will pass. Are you able to create some space, mentally  or physical for yourself?When  I want to be left alone I remove myself and tell my partner that I need some headspace, even if it's just to another room or wearing my noise defenders. I probably look pretty weird Sweat smile but I don't care, as long as I can 'empty my bucket'. People with an ASD do not have the same capacity as NTs, so need to keep an eye on their bucket  in case it overflows;  resulting in  a meltdown. You won't be able to change or control how other people behave, that's a given. What you can control,  is how much you manage that influence on you. Protect yourself as much as you can, you have every right to a good quality of life like anyone else, your not defective - just different :)

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  • in reply to Oscie

    Thank you for your reply. I know it will pass but there is a part of me that wants it to pass quickly when it does happen. I try to create mental and physical space for myself but it can be overloaded about a bad event if something went wrong during the day. Eventually I do 'empty my bucket' but it takes time. I know I can't control people's behaviour but it is reassuring when I know people are okay. I am just different so I have to find ways that help me get out of a potential meltdown but it will take time.