Do I have autism ?

The Imp of the Perverse said:

As for getting one's coat or shouting, someone with a ToM difficulty can understand the meaning of the action but not its significance at the time it is taking place. That's why the behaviour of Aspies themselves can seem to follow a predictable pattern to an NT but the significance to the Aspie can be the complete opposite to how the NT views it. If anyone wants to correc this feel free but this has been my experience and much more so the Aspies I know.

Is it really an aspie thing that people read behaviour differently ?

you could say the same for cultures, ages, depression etc.

I consider myself less volatile in my emotions and find NT's difficult to read but I think very often they dont know what they are going to do next themselves because their emotions are all over the place.

Funnily enough, Easy, having read your first post, your experience and wishes seem much closer to mine than many people I've read about...well apart from the anxiety but my lack of fear is not a healthy thing. Strange how anxiety and a lack of fear go together...I suppose the anxiety is a day-to-day thing but the lack of fear seems much more part of me. I don't really care what happens to me but other people make me anxious. My lack of fear makes others anxious and so it goes round and round!

I suppose I do feel anxious and uncomfortable around people, at the moment I live a fairly isolated life so I am comfortable most of the time but when I used to work I had to get away on my own or my mind would just start to zizz out, my memory would get bad , I couldnt concentrate and if I didnt stop I would get bad migraines.

I have never really called it anxiety, I just feel I have to get away and be on my own but I suppose anxiety is as good a word as any.

The Imp of the Perverse said:

As for getting one's coat or shouting, someone with a ToM difficulty can understand the meaning of the action but not its significance at the time it is taking place. That's why the behaviour of Aspies themselves can seem to follow a predictable pattern to an NT but the significance to the Aspie can be the complete opposite to how the NT views it. If anyone wants to correc this feel free but this has been my experience and much more so the Aspies I know.

Is it really an aspie thing that people read behaviour differently ?

you could say the same for cultures, ages, depression etc.

I consider myself less volatile in my emotions and find NT's difficult to read but I think very often they dont know what they are going to do next themselves because their emotions are all over the place.

Funnily enough, Easy, having read your first post, your experience and wishes seem much closer to mine than many people I've read about...well apart from the anxiety but my lack of fear is not a healthy thing. Strange how anxiety and a lack of fear go together...I suppose the anxiety is a day-to-day thing but the lack of fear seems much more part of me. I don't really care what happens to me but other people make me anxious. My lack of fear makes others anxious and so it goes round and round!

I suppose I do feel anxious and uncomfortable around people, at the moment I live a fairly isolated life so I am comfortable most of the time but when I used to work I had to get away on my own or my mind would just start to zizz out, my memory would get bad , I couldnt concentrate and if I didnt stop I would get bad migraines.

I have never really called it anxiety, I just feel I have to get away and be on my own but I suppose anxiety is as good a word as any.