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bullying

goldenbirds
over 4 years ago

Hi nas forum

Why do autistic people get bullied so often? I see and hear about it everywhere and have personally experienced it throughout my life in all sorts of situations from people of all walks of life.

I have also met people in all situations and all walks of life who are also kind accepting and try to accomodate.

I find misunderstanding and ignorance is a lot of it or not wanting to understand. We have a difference in processing and it's not our fault, we're not doing it on purpose to wind you up.

What are your thoughts?

Parents
  • over 4 years ago

    From personal experience, I think that bullies are quick to pick on anyone who is a loner, or stands out in any obvious way, especially if the person can't or won't fight back. Chances of fighting back were limited anyway, they often went around in groups. At school, I also discovered that others who were less frequently targeted but still afraid would sometimes ingratiate themselves with the bullies by joining in picking on those even further down the social ladder than themselves. (For example helping to hold a person down while the bullies put the boot in.)

    I like to think that I understand their psychology now better than I did at the time, but it still hurt, and I still don't really know how someone can take pleasure in another person's pain, physical or mental.

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  • over 4 years ago

    From personal experience, I think that bullies are quick to pick on anyone who is a loner, or stands out in any obvious way, especially if the person can't or won't fight back. Chances of fighting back were limited anyway, they often went around in groups. At school, I also discovered that others who were less frequently targeted but still afraid would sometimes ingratiate themselves with the bullies by joining in picking on those even further down the social ladder than themselves. (For example helping to hold a person down while the bullies put the boot in.)

    I like to think that I understand their psychology now better than I did at the time, but it still hurt, and I still don't really know how someone can take pleasure in another person's pain, physical or mental.

Children
  • over 4 years ago in reply to OrinocoFlo

    I agree that bullies pick on the weaker targets, to me that makes them cowards. I recently spoke to one of my sons bullies parents and the parents were vile! I then looked them up on facebook just to get some back ground info and I noticed that the kid at his previous school who was violent to my son and was dismissed as 'oh he has adhd so we wont tell him off for stuffing rubbish in your sons mouth and stamping on him' well his mum is friends with the current bullies mum. We also had a girl who would ride her bike to our house pretending to be friends with him but then the 1 time i let him go out with her she left him in a dangerous part of the town alone (the one time i trusted him out as he is asd my mistake) anyway her mum is also very good friends with the other 2 bullying kids! so the children are basically reflections of their parents!