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Do you think that this person is my friend still?

NAS24919
over 4 years ago

I look at my friends list on Facebook a lot, and it says how many friends that my friends have. Today, I was randomly on there, and noticed that one had dropped from about 350 friends to 250 friends. 

Does such a rapid loss of friends suggest that they had a cull? They rarely post statuses, so it couldn't have been like they posted something and 100 people unfriended them. I am still friends with them. 

Do you think that this means they are still my friend/care about me? I have Aspergers, so find it hard to socialise. I have obviously spoke to this person before at University, but I am so naturally introverted that it is hard for me to do so, even though I want to. They see, to have 'unfriended' people who have better social skills with me, and engaged far more socially with them than I did. 

I am so glad that they didn't unfriend me, as they may not have realised it, but I would have been devastated, as I really care about them as a friend - my Aspergers just makes it very hard for me to show this. 

Do you think that they still are my friend and do you think that they still care about me? They just seemed to have 'unfriended' people who were much closer socially to them than I was - but then I find it so hard to overcome my natural shyness. 

They said this (below) before to me when I was upset: 

'[my name] you can always talk to me :) and I dont know of anyone who hates you you're such a lovely person. There are lots of people who care about you and want you to be ok'

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  • over 4 years ago

    Lots of people have Facebook culls; when I've done it in the past, I either remove people who I haven't talked to in several years, or people who have posted offensive/upsetting things that I'd rather not have to read.

    The fact that this person hasn't removed you suggests that they're still interested in you and your life. You could always send them a message to see how they are - that might start a conversation and help you to get in touch with them again.

    Their message sounds like something a friend would say, so that's a positive sign.

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  • over 4 years ago

    Lots of people have Facebook culls; when I've done it in the past, I either remove people who I haven't talked to in several years, or people who have posted offensive/upsetting things that I'd rather not have to read.

    The fact that this person hasn't removed you suggests that they're still interested in you and your life. You could always send them a message to see how they are - that might start a conversation and help you to get in touch with them again.

    Their message sounds like something a friend would say, so that's a positive sign.

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