Solid advice on taking care of my self as an adult in the autistic spectrum just diagnosed

Hi,

I'm  male, 39, I was diagnosed two years ago and as such I'm looking for two years for some external help about managing my autistic spectrum
without solution.

I would say that my autism is mild, and as such I would say the main things are ok but I still have some rough corners

I'm in france, and in a medical desert. As such as far as I know there is zero chance that I will find some counseling or similar and I have
to take care of my self on finding what will help myself to suffer less/feel better.

I have several problems, but I would say the three majors ones are anxiety ,irritability and uncontrollable burst of angriness, and lacks of social skills.

I have succeed in managing my anxiety but one part of this management was stopping my work as a computer engineer, and as far as I know,
in the current state of anxiety level, I'm unable to fulfill a new job. I have revenue from french medicare (sécurité sociale) and as such I don't
need a job to survive. I really love computers and would enjoy to do the technical part of my computer job, if possible despite that  it implies
more social interaction than in my ideal way of life. (And of course, additional revenue is always welcome, but additional revenue is all but a priority)

I already read "Asperger's syndrome" book from Tony Attwood (french third edition) two years ago and somehow it helped. I also read quite a lot
of testimony of people on the spectrum and that helped too.

What I'm looking for is solid advice and reference of what says expert about the way for someone on the spectrum to learn how to manage my autism by himself.
A book form would be perfect but any form is ok. Personal advice and testimony or anything which you think can help is welcome.

If possible start your answers by something like "reference book:"  that I know what I have to expect from your answer. (If you don't do it because of personal choice
it is not a problem)
--Computer lover