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Toilet issues help!

Mush

Hi my ten year old son is in the process of an Aspergers diagnosis. He won't use the toilets at school despite the SENCO giving him a pass to a private toilet, a photo on reception so he isn't questioned and today even escorting him there! Any one else had same issues and any advice gratefully received

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  • hi Mush - it's not irrelevant at all.  It impacts on your child and his family throughout every day, day in day out.  It causes a load of stress all round.  It can't do him any gd to keep holding it in for hours on end.  It's likely to spoil his enjoyment of other things if he feels uncomfortable physically.  Seems to be a mixture of noise issues + a big need for privacy.  Do you know which of these 2 issues (sorry if there are any more that I've not mentioned) which is the greater, or are they equally distress-causing?  A good set of headphones can blot out a great deal of noise if the school cd let him use them when he wants to go to the toilet.  The toilet doors are another matter of course, unless the school cd fit a toilet with a top to bottom door for him - the private one?  That shdn't be expensive, altho health + safety issues might come into it.  If he's got a long walk to the toilet then I can understand your concern.  Really this isn't on.  None of the other children have to do this.  At the very least I think he shd be accompanied, again for H + S reasons.  Sorry if these suggestions have already been discussed with the school or aren't helpful.  I do know what it's like to be in a bind + how it can really affect things negatively day in day out.  bw

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  • hi Mush - it's not irrelevant at all.  It impacts on your child and his family throughout every day, day in day out.  It causes a load of stress all round.  It can't do him any gd to keep holding it in for hours on end.  It's likely to spoil his enjoyment of other things if he feels uncomfortable physically.  Seems to be a mixture of noise issues + a big need for privacy.  Do you know which of these 2 issues (sorry if there are any more that I've not mentioned) which is the greater, or are they equally distress-causing?  A good set of headphones can blot out a great deal of noise if the school cd let him use them when he wants to go to the toilet.  The toilet doors are another matter of course, unless the school cd fit a toilet with a top to bottom door for him - the private one?  That shdn't be expensive, altho health + safety issues might come into it.  If he's got a long walk to the toilet then I can understand your concern.  Really this isn't on.  None of the other children have to do this.  At the very least I think he shd be accompanied, again for H + S reasons.  Sorry if these suggestions have already been discussed with the school or aren't helpful.  I do know what it's like to be in a bind + how it can really affect things negatively day in day out.  bw

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