Hi my ten year old son is in the process of an Aspergers diagnosis. He won't use the toilets at school despite the SENCO giving him a pass to a private toilet, a photo on reception so he isn't questioned and today even escorting him there! Any one else had same issues and any advice gratefully received
Hi Crystal
Thanks so much for this reply - it is not so much the hand drier as the openness of the main toilets at school, the private toilet is in the middle of some offices and he can hear talking which puts him off. Even at home he makes sure all the doors in the house are closed before he will go. I think noise is the main issue and public toilets are a nightmare. He likes no gaps in the doors either above or below and would prefer that no one else was in there wherever he is. We have used disabled toilets in some places whihc he can just about manage. If he goes to school and then to after school club then he can go many hours holding on until we get home and he is desperate. They have now allowed him to use the toilets in a seperate building which is an autistic center but this involves quite a walk so he will use these if absolutely desperate. This is better than it was but I still worry. If he has an accident or makes himself ill then I will feel terrible for him. The school have been fantastic but he gets quite distressed about the toilet issue and if we are out for the day it can be a nightmare. Once he is used to a toilet he is much better. Just hearing from someone who does not pass this off as irrelevant is a great help - so thank you again. 
Hi Crystal
Thanks so much for this reply - it is not so much the hand drier as the openness of the main toilets at school, the private toilet is in the middle of some offices and he can hear talking which puts him off. Even at home he makes sure all the doors in the house are closed before he will go. I think noise is the main issue and public toilets are a nightmare. He likes no gaps in the doors either above or below and would prefer that no one else was in there wherever he is. We have used disabled toilets in some places whihc he can just about manage. If he goes to school and then to after school club then he can go many hours holding on until we get home and he is desperate. They have now allowed him to use the toilets in a seperate building which is an autistic center but this involves quite a walk so he will use these if absolutely desperate. This is better than it was but I still worry. If he has an accident or makes himself ill then I will feel terrible for him. The school have been fantastic but he gets quite distressed about the toilet issue and if we are out for the day it can be a nightmare. Once he is used to a toilet he is much better. Just hearing from someone who does not pass this off as irrelevant is a great help - so thank you again.
